EMPOWERED WOMEN: THE MORE THEY ARE EMPOWERED, THE MORE INSECURE THEY BECOME….WHY?
December 21st, 2008 | by admin |You are at www.garyjamesblogs.com
….An empowered woman in that psychological state will bend over, bow down, and do nearly anything her man asks so long as she sees him in the light of power…..
Most women have no idea what they want. However, they do know what they like and respond accordingly when or after they see or experience something that becomes to them what women say they want. You may think this to be merely a sweeping personal opinion. However, as an author and councilor I have used this concept to help many men & women resolve various relationships problems, to avoid other issues in their lives, and make a nice living at it.
My success in helping people in part is because I see clearly the correlation between how empowered a woman is (or claims to be) that coincides with an increased sense of insecurity as extremely predictable. And what this points to is, at least one of the by-products of women’s empowerment. The more empowered she is the more insecure she is….and it’s instinctive. For many women this plain understanding alone has been therapeutic.
I was introduced to the concept of women who become empowered also becoming more insecure as a correlation by a woman who was also my very first serious love affair, her name was Vee.
Vee was an early version of an empowered woman in that by age 21 she had decidedly asserted that she did not need a man to survive. And Vee was right. Yet, by about 30 days into our love affair despite the fact I was 16 years old, Vee had virtually handed me the reigns to take the lead in our relationship.
So long as I remained a worthy leader in her eyes she willingly granted me authority over her. And I saw in her eyes the relief it was for her to follow my lead. (By the way, this action she took also motivated me to become a better man and so for the time we were together our relationship worked.) In time Vee admitted she was more comfortable with me in the lead of the relationship rather than her being the responsible one. And yet Vee was empowered.
Since Vee I have seen this same correlation between an empowered woman and her sense of insecurity in very many women. And to this day I am astounded by how quickly women respond to a man’s power, especially if it’s in the form of his command presence.
An empowered woman in that psychological state will bend over, bow down, and do nearly anything her man asks so long as she sees him in the light of power. Yet, women will rarely ever admit to such vulnerability. And as odd as it may seem, the more empowered a woman is the easier it is for a man to achieve a position of authority in her life.
Why is this so? Because, instinctively, women pick men…Men do not pick women. And in doing so it prompts the natural female mammalian instincts to choose a male then submit to his authority. Which means, women’s empowerment, although a good thing, works against the grain of a woman’s natural physiological instincts….It reinforces her constant inner conflict and the something missing that most women express they feel about their lives.
If you want to know more about how this works read my book titled, “Love Du Jour: Learn to Date, Mate, and Communicate with the Opposite Sex in the Era of Empowered Women”.
Also, I have an internet radio show www.garyjamesradioshow.com and email gary@garyjamesradioshow.com
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Tags: communication issues, instincts, physiological, psychological, psychology, relationships problems, womens empowerment
