Thursday, February 25th, 2010
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….Tiger Woods is a phenomenon. And he is about to become a “larger than life” persona of what it means to be a man of means. Meanwhile, it’s the women who would love to see Tiger’s testicles tied to a golf Tee…..
“HEY EVERYBODY, HAVE YOU HEARD THAT THING ABOUT TIGER WOODS YET”?
And then, on top of the scuttle butt, Tiger Woods decided to display a vulgar use of his power by standing in front of a camera to make a national apology. Apologize to whom?
His sponsors? It’s not necessary. Tiger’s sponsors know very well that the sport where he’s a super star appeals mostly to men and in case you’re wondering, men could give a flying “fc’k” that Tiger Woods has relationship issues because he has had sex with 20 plus girlfriends despite the fact he also has a wife and kids.
The fact is, Tiger’s sponsors and the men who follow golf simply want his a@@ back on the course because he’s the best thing to happen to the game of golf since they invented the 19th hole. And as soon as he gets back on the course and gets through the media frenzy that will be a part of the show everyone (which includes his detractors) will see for themselves, Tiger Woods is a phenomenon. And relationship issues or not, he is about to become a “larger than life” persona of what it means to be a man of means.
Meanwhile, it’s the women who would love to see Tiger’s testicles tied to a golf Tee. And then let every duffer in sight take a swing. However, as for apologizing to the women, the cold reality is, since I seriously doubt anyone can produce an appreciable amount of women who have NOT been cheated on, the women in our culture therefore, know very well that all women can do in a situation like dealing with a Cad is to sue for money….and that’s assuming she has genuine cause to seek remedy. (Having consensual sex with a superstar is not necessarily such a cause).
The only thing that has happened thus far is that Tiger Woods has shown his true stripes, and that’s it….And this includes the fact he has now rammed the point home by standing in front of a TV camera and make spew. Tiger Woods as a man is a “Cad”….a squeaky clean p*@@y hound who got caught with his hand deep inside the honey jar who is also currently in the state of denial about what everybody else seems to know.
However, as for Tiger’s children let’s be thankful they are being protected from the plethora of reports published about “what daddy did”. They seem young enough that barring some other sinister element revealed,… this whole thing will blow over by the time they reach puberty, the age where they could have the capacity to relate to “what daddy did” all on their own.
Elin, on the other hand, was perhaps blindsided by this saga in that Tiger was involved in not just an affair but a juggernaut of self indulgence deliberately perpetrated by Tiger’s own hand… and it would take the power & prowess of someone the caliber of Hugh Hefner to match.
Anyone with the slightest understanding of “how things actually work” on planet earth knows and even expects such behavior from men of power such as a Hugh Hefner or even a Bill Clinton. NO.
What caught Elin off guard is the fact that Tiger was the rare phenomenon who calculatedly was set upon high as an image as though it were priceless. (Anyone who knows good business knows that such an image is usually an illusion and not to be trusted. Whoever put money into Tiger Wood’s career based upon such an illusion and lost money because of his antics with women deserves to have lost money.)
To be fair, that error in judgment is perhaps one of only two real issues I can find to come out of all the reports on Tiger Woods antics with women. The second issue is the fact I doubt that Tiger or any of his close advisors have read my book, “The Mammalian way”.
This is something that if Tiger OR Elin had done as they were growing up or before they got married could have given them the insight into men & women that would have helped them handle Tiger’s monstrous mammalian urges to pervert his honor and to dispense with those perversions on their own terms and without the need to get caught as an adulterer or other such relationships issues…as well as, handle Elin’s extreme sense of insecurity that could account for why all she’s got to show for life with Tiger thus far is a couple kids and a “hole” lot of money.
I do not know Tiger Woods. If you do and could get this blog post in front of him he could surely use the help. I realize what I say here is presumptuous. However, quite a number of people who have already read my book or use my curriculum has mentioned to me, that people like John Edwards, Mark Sanford, Tiger Woods, OR their wives OR mistresses, etc. REALLY, REALLY need to read my book. If so, they would likely not be in the crap pile they ended up in. But that’s another blog…..
I have written new, original, and useful material for the social sciences. Within that material are answers that can help you in all of your relationships. Remember: You cannot escape “The Mammalian Way”. You deal with it moment to moment everyday of your lives. It doesn’t judge. It can help or hurt you and it is not forgiving when you make errors in judgment especially if you do not know what “The Mammalian Way” means……
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Sunday, January 3rd, 2010
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Given all the media hype about Tiger Wood’s love life who did not know that AT&T would drop his sponsorship. For the moment he is simply too hot & too risky to keep around given the way the media snoops into people’s private lives. Who knows what they might uncover next?
Meanwhile, as a relationships author I can tell you that none of what has gone on recently in Tiger’s life surprised me…not even a little bit. Rather, my contention is, it was probably some publicist or other type of Ad person who likely whispered into Tiger’s ear the benefits of the increased value to his stock should he get married, start a family, and become the quintessential “role model” for God knows who that motivated Tiger Woods to get married in the first place.
With that scenario as a likely influence, the overall estimate that Tiger’s love life will cost sports, endorsements, and his self currently sits at about 12 billion dollars. Talk about the ripple effect. But wait a minute, what about the fact he now no longer has to live the lie?
Prior to the news break about his true interest in women, socially speaking, who didn’t think of Tiger as a fortunate dweeb? But for the fact he could make a golf ball sing opera, cook breakfast, or just about anything else he wanted there is no way that Tiger Woods would get near the women he does. From a strict straight sexual male perspective and someone who has written a book* on the subject Tiger gets a resounding “BRAVO!” (*See book titled “The Mammalian Way”)
Not that I endorse infidelity because I don’t. Socially speaking, the fact is, Tiger had no business being married in the first place. The Bravo part is because he pulled it off for as long as he did. If Tiger would have the physical look of a Brad Pit I doubt the media would have allowed him to get away with the antics he did for nearly as long.
Financially speaking, Tiger needs on his team an advisor who can council his councilors about how to launch the career of a male sports super star where the fact he is a “playa” as an established fact of life. Tiger MUST now drop his image as a family man liaison between the craziness of big time sports & the average folk and pick up the “scepter of suave”. He can still be a role model to God knows who only he’ll have to add kids the caution about getting married before your time or getting married at all if “it’s” not in you.
Whoever he gets to advise him might even begin with getting him dates with women who can trace their lineage into royal blood or heiresses to major fortunes (for example, if someone could negotiate a Tiger Woods – Paris Hilton hook up it would bolster both of their careers straight into the stratosphere league of relationships I call, “The Untouchables”).
I do not know Tiger Woods personally but I do know he needs to read the information I have to share while he is still in sabbatical. But that’s another blog.
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Elin Nordegren, Jamie Jungers, Mindy Lawton, Cori Rist, Rachel Uchitel, Kalika Moquin, Jaimee Grubbs, etc., etc……..all picked Tiger as a sex partner. Their behavior toward Tiger Woods are examples of women acting out behavior that is on the purely mammalian side of the “Pendulum Swing Of Insecurity” that all women perpetually ride.
Since I wrote the original theory about human instinctive behavior and how it controls our behavior in relationships more than we might think, this, despite the fact we humans also possess a cognitive capacity that is supposed to control our more primal behavior that I refer to as, “The Mammalian Way”, there has been an ever increasing number of issues in people’s relationships, especially celebrity relationships that bear out the tenets of my original theory to the “T”.
For example, a major tenet of my original theory related to how men and women behave instinctively in relationships is the fact that when it comes to relationships, Women Pick Men….. Men do not Pick Women. This is especially true when sex & romance can enter the mix of a relationship’s emotions and social behavior patterns.
Another tenet that most non professionals tend to under estimate is the fact that women innately respond to a man they perceive as powerful in that they are drawn to him. According to the decades long studies I conducted most women admitted that when they are/were in the company of men they perceived as powerful they had a tendency to become “wet between the legs”. In my book titled, “The Mammalian Way” I expound on this tendency to include the fact that a woman’s response to a man’s power is mostly a perception that induces a woman’s more mammalian needs to manifest as a completely soaked vagina and ready for sex as only one example of how her mammalian self innately responds to a man that she’s picked.
Case in point is the ever growing list of women that have picked Tiger Woods for sex. Attention: Do not slight Tiger Woods for what many call a transgression. Tiger Woods was simply up against his own innate mammalian drives akin to most male mammals that typically manifest as an overwhelming urge to spread his seed.
Meanwhile, I doubt that Tiger Woods has ever been taught about the power of the Mammalian Way as it relates to a man’s responsibility toward his as well as “her” set of purely mammalian instincts when in a committed relationship such as marriage. Otherwise, I doubt he would be in the mess he’s in. Still, Tiger’s MAMMALIAN INSTINCTS ARE QUITE NORMAL. It’s the way he acted upon them that is cheap & hurtful.
I maintain that unless a man (or woman) truly knows what they are dealing with in an innate drive that can affect their relationships, when that drive becomes manifest, a man (or woman) are extremely prone to act on that drive regardless of their semantic commitments or other cognitive capacities to the contrary (such as vows) and they will almost always do the wrong thing in the end. And this fact is predicated on the fact we humans live in an ever increasing imperfectly safe environment. (Read “The Mammalian Way” for a clear understanding)
Psychiatrists, psychologists, and other therapists have been the first people to use my theory in their practices. The tenets can be used as therapy after a relationship issue arises or it can also be used as a pre-emptive measure to avoid or abate a crucial situation such as the urge to cheat! Since the question of “why do men or women cheat” is in the top three questions I get asked, it is therefore time for humans earth wide to understand their gender specific innate drives. So read my book.
Bottom Line: When a man has a social posture based on such things as money, fame, and accomplishment, etc., it is easy to set up women desperate for their own identity to fall for him. They’ll pick him if only to satisfy her curiosity. But make no mistake about it she will need to see him as powerful and she must pick him before anything can happen between them (even if he’s the one who approaches her first.) And it’s all in keeping with “The Mammalian Way”. Power is a huge attraction for a woman because it goes to her deep insatiable innate need for security…But that’s another blog.
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