Sunday, January 18th, 2009
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….The mother and bride laughed and cried tears of joy when they saw the photos I took. They kept saying, “When did you take this photo”?….
If and when a personal relationship finds it’s way to a marriage proposal more often than not it leads to an unrepeatable, unrehearsed special event called a wedding.
As a producer, by the time I became actively involved in wedding photography I already had some experience in the wedding industry as a freelance DJ. So I basically knew how a good portion of the wedding day was supposed to “go”.
I owned some medium format and 35 m/m camera gear that my girlfriend at the time borrowed in order to learn how to photograph weddings. I found someone to teach her and I went along with her to the classes. That’s essentially how I got involved with weddings as a photographer.
And when my girlfriend moved on in life I was left with great photography gear and some further specialized production knowledge very relevant to the wedding industry.
Meanwhile, one day soon after I received a phone call from a mother of a bride who knew me personally and who’s wedding photographer had cancelled on her daughter’s wedding. The wedding was only 6 weeks away and my time was available for that day.
I met with the bride and her mother and leveled with them, that even though I had some experience in the industry if they hired me to “shoot” their wedding it would be the first time I shot an entire wedding on my own.
The bride and her mom appreciated my candor and decided to take a chance on me and so they hired me.
My approach was this: I combined the bride’s input about her taste and the specific images she needed shot with my own sense of production value then shot the wedding as I saw it. I took standard issue and portrait photos (How to do that is what I learned at wedding photo school) as well as documenting the day as it actually occurred, sometimes called photojournalism.
Here was the outcome of the days efforts: The mother and bride laughed and cried tears of joy when they saw the photos I took. They kept saying, “When did you take this photo”? In short, my clients were extremely happy. What else happened?
- The church lady at the Catholic church said, “You are by far the fastest photographer I ever saw the way you coordinated all the group shots at the alter in 15 minutes”. I remember this because she also asked for a “handful of my business cards”.
Her comment about coordinating the group photos stuck with me and I found out as time went on that most wedding photographers sorely lack basic everyday production skills, skills that I find are reasonably easy to learn.
- At the reception held at a very exclusive private Men’s club, the banquet director also took a few cards and remarked, “I have a list of photographers that I don’t refer much longer than the list I do. I like how you try not to be noticed by the guests”. (When he found out it was my first wedding he nearly did a spit take in his ginger ale.)
- Two couples who were guests at the wedding and engaged to be married also asked for my card.
Thus, a new specialikzed aspect of my production abilities was born. What the people such as the church lady and the banquet director were responding to when they took my card even though they had not yet seen a single photo I took is, the way they saw me approach my responsibility toward the bride’s wedding day that went far beyond merely taking a photo…..
The key to success was in the details I gleaned from the bride about her day along with understanding basic “Production Value” of an unrehearsed, unrepeatable special event. I simply used these elements as my basis to cover the wedding day.
All of this is to say that a wedding photographer needs to possess not only the artistic and technical capacity to create images, but an ability to see how the people of the day act and react to the event as it unfolds. I captured the essence of that first wedding day and every wedding I shot there after.
If you have questions about the wedding industry or elements of your special day feel free to contact me garyjamesradioshow@yahoo.com I am the only one who sees that mail.
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Wednesday, December 31st, 2008
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After only one time as a featured guest on her show it took me deeper into understanding the stuff I already know.
That’s what she does to you. Alexyss K Tylor VP (Vagina Power) She draws you out. However, please know the woman is irreverent, soulful, spiritual, outrageous, and that’s just for starters. But her show is a wonderful blend of funny and informative. That is if you can handle the language, which I would say is rated R for language.
Personally, I feel her show is quite refreshing, for one reason amongst many, I was able to say some things the exact way I think them.
So it should come as no surprise that her council style is similar to mine in that Alexyss takes a non clinical approach to the help she brings to her listeners, most of which have some sort of communications issue or other problems in their personal relationships. Yet she has an angels touch in her ability to draw out a person to speak their mind, something she calls, “getting real”. And the results she gets in doing so with listeners and featured guests alike can be therapeutic indeed.
Her ever growing audience is predominately made up of minority women from all over the earth, and they are quick to pass the word about the value of Alexyss’s show. The good Lord willing and if the creeks don’t rise, I am certain Alexyss and I will work together again soon.
I could go on & on about Alexyss’s perspective on personal relationships but I think you need to get a load of her yourself. To do so go to the front page of my radio show’s web site; www.garyjamesradioshow.com THEN, scroll down to the links section on the right side of the page and click on the term “VAGINA POWER” Alexyss K. Tylor. This will take you to her web site and radio show link.
Be Well….Expect Success
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Saturday, December 27th, 2008
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….the character Edward Cullen has supreme power to provide for and to dominate Bella Swan so she feels safe enough to melt into his “Lifestyle”…..
Image courtesy of Twilight The Movie Official Web Site
Is it any wonder why the movie “Twilight” has been a box office hit amongst women, especially younger women. The plot and story line fulfillment plays directly into the heart of the pendulum swing nature of women’s own sense of insecurity, although they may or may not be consciously aware of it. But more than that it plays into it with a resolve that satisfies both men’s and women’s psychological defense mechanisms as they work in concert.
The attraction and the success of the movie “Twilight” is because the story’s premise is a perfect example of the psychological theories I uncovered working in harmony (at least between the pair that make up the complete protagonist, stars Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson.)
The two theories (that manifest as psychological defense mechanisms) work in concert in the movie and the underlying reason I see for it’s success is because the character Edward Cullen has supreme power to provide for and to dominate Bella Swan so she feels safe enough to melt into his “Lifestyle” and share in what is arguably a perverse form of existence with out fear. [Defense mechanism one satisfied]
Meanwhile, Edward is dealing with the aspects of an imperfectly safe world where he realizes his actions as a vampire are perverse despite the fact he and his family consume only animal blood as a gesture to show respect for human life. The fact that Edward does not kill people and does not use his power to purposely bully anyone let alone Bella, has the effect of canceling out the negative aspects of the perversions that being a vampire might bring. [Defense mechanism two satisfied.]
Thus, the story becomes a stellar example of the two defense mechanisms working in concert. This connection between Bella and Edward is the blood of the story and what I believe is the true the underlying reason why so many women are attracted to the “Twilight’s” story line. It’s a subliminal attraction that many people might think are teenage impish notions of love & romance and then write them off as merely a way for the 16 year old girl mind set to achieve release. That is, until you understand the theories I uncovered and their axioms.
To learn more about the theories, their application, and how they effect the personal relationships and relative problems in your every day life, read the book, “Love Du Jour: Learn how to Date, Mate, and Communicate with the Opposite Sex in the Era of Empowered Women”.
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Saturday, December 20th, 2008
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When I first told her about the psychological theories I discovered and how they relate to other than personal relationships difficulties, she volunteered information to the effect of, “There is something missing and it’s not merely to deal with an insecure husband.” She said, “It’s something inside, like a gnawing”.
I have many women friends, acquaintances, and lovers who “want it all” and then go out and get it! Yet all of these beautiful empowered women admit, “There’s still something missing”. And each of them I have talked with about the something missing also adds, “And I’m not alone”.
One friend (and former lover) in particular who has plenty of what I call zeal for life, met a man, got married, and raised a beautiful child. She started a business that grew and became successful enough that she now owns a home and a vacation-get away condo, two late model vehicles, private school for her child, and enough free time that she can call her own in order to escape so as to not go crazy when her husband who constantly quizzes her about where she spends her free time as if to say, “honey, I love you but I do not trust you and I’m intimidated by your success”. Got the picture?
When I first told her about the psychological theories I discovered and how they relate to other than personal relationships difficulties, she volunteered information to the effect of, “There is something missing and it’s not merely to deal with an insecure husband.” She said, “It’s something inside, like a gnawing”. YEP!
My friend is the classic example of empowered women syndrome. And it’s nothing more than one of the theories I uncovered that manifests as a deep psychological defense mechanism against a woman’s polarized sense of insecurity.
I say polarized because there are two basic needs for security that women continually contend with and the two are in constant conflict. Each need is instinctive and they tend to operate as a mutually exclusive function. And it is this function that lay at the heart of the “inner gnawing”.
Meanwhile, in following my research I now conclude that if one polarized need is being satisfied to the point where the psychological “gnawing” subsides it is typically at the expense of suppressing or otherwise ignoring the other need, where the “gnawing” persists.
ADVERTISERS
A prime example of how one aspect of this something missing scenario has been exploited can be seen in the advertising industry. Quite often advertisers will aim ads, products, and services at the evident conflict between women’s rational and irrational selves. I am sure this approach works well to move merchandise but it is psychological surface water compared to the deep seated ocean of need a woman has for security that keeps her searching for the “something missing” that often seems to be just out of reach.
Is there a more affirmative answer? Yes. Read “Love Du Jour! Learn How to Date, Mate, and Communicate with the Opposite Sex in the Era of Empowered Women.”
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Saturday, November 1st, 2008
From information referenced on, “You Tube” to sensual poems, Dr Keith Mumby, MD as the Naked Doctor has produced a 2 CD audio set that will “prick” your sexual imagination.
Titled, 21 Ways to Spice up Your Sex Life it is as much about the affection necessary between two people that enables lovers to have a true basis for unbridled sex as it is positions and places to engage in sex. So let it be no surprise that the impetus put on this tutorial is aimed squarely at people involved in meaningful relationships, having “One Fixed partner”.
There are many points of sexual & sensual interest shared by the Naked Doctor, and he does so in a light, fun, and funny, non stuffy-non scientific manner.
Besides procedures for the clitoris rub and the good old fashioned “hand job”, the instructions include oral sex for men and women as well as the preparations necessary for an “all night sex” session.
Even though I have been “doing it” for many years with few complaints from my lover, I must say I picked up useful information from the Naked Doctor.
A growing number of people are aware of my discussions on the differences between “B” grade sex versus “A” grade sex. 21 Ways to Spice up Your Sex Life is the best production I’ve encountered that can take a couple into the realm of “A” grade sex. Meanwhile, I enjoyed the program and I recommend it…..Bye for now….
Dr Mumby & wife Vivien
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Sunday, October 19th, 2008
Dear Gary,
Let me say just a few words about men and our relationships as a female…
I have been married for many years through the good, bad and ugly…I have cried, pouted, manipulated, guilted, threatened to leave…I have been to therapy with and without my husband and have spent endless hours trying to figure out what wasn’t working…
So I tried an experiment that you shared with me, it was something I was thinking about doing anyway. I simply decided to give my husband RESPECT even though I didn’t think he deserved it. I respected his position as the husband. I did not undermine his authority in public or with the children. I treated him with respect in every area… If I had a difference of opinion and views, in a respectful way I discussed it with him in the privacy of our home with just the two of us….That means, no yelling screaming, throwing items, walking away…you get the point. What do you think happened?
It took only a few days and I got what I wanted! I was loved and cherished… It was a win/ win situation! And our intimacy got better as well.
Was this easy at first? Especially when things were not going well?? Absolutely not! But I bit my tongue and pressed forward and am happy to say it is working well!
Ladies, try to honor your man even though you might not think he deserves it. You have little to lose and you just may get what you want.
Thanks Gary, from a firm believer.
Willow
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Saturday, October 18th, 2008
As a social theorist I have encountered a great many people who have misunderstandings and communication difficulties with the opposite sex, especially since we now live in the era of EMPOWERED WOMEN. Given the confusion men have about women and women have about men, is it any wonder why personal relationships problems abound, especially where sex can be involved?
The analysis for Platinum’s story as it relates to the various axioms that apply to the psychological theories I discovered in personal relationships, and their potential problems go as follows:
Remember: Platinum bought the drink for me after she heard me talk about being a screen writer. Almost anything done professionally in the performing arts is a form of psychological power because it’s prestigious in that it’s a profession that few people successfully engage in. The line about screenwriting is what indirectly got me on Platinum’s pick list because at that point I was also basically ignoring her just like all the other guys in the bar.
The two axioms that apply here are, “Women pick Men…Men Don’t Pick Women” and “Women respond to Power, especially in the form of command presence”.
Platinum also kept asking me, “Am I Pretty”? because women tend to be massively insecure. The axiom is: In women, there exists a correlation whereby the prettier or higher up the Alpha Female scale a woman is the more insecure she is, and this emanates from women’s need for safety….As it relates to Platinum, she is an aging Alpha female and fighting it every inch of the way. This makes for one gigantic ball of insecurity in a woman.
Platinum decided to have sex with me after I gave her the information on why men did not pay attention to her the way that they likely would have paid attention to her 20 years prior. I showed her a type of truthfulness that goes with someone who has rank, a command presence…confident, unafraid, but not arrogant.
[The fine line I draw here is the difference between getting a woman to think about a man passionately, to have sex, which is the way men rate most encounters with the opposite sex. This as opposed to just being a nice guy as a friend, who she tolerates but would never sleep with, because arrogance tends to hit women in the brain, where truthfulness, the likes I shared with Platinum at the bar, tends to hit women in the heart.]
And this all goes to power, which goes to what women instinctively respond to because of their need for safety. Platinum’s call to have sex with me was when she said, “I think you’re right. Why don’t weee get out of here”? This statement coupled with her body language, leaning in toward me and touching me told me that sex with her was probable. What I did not include in the anecdote was when I opened the door to help Platinum into the car she kissed me before she got in.
Still, she could have stopped me any time she wanted but I knew that she wouldn’t because as I kissed her back I could smell the heat of her passion on her breath. From that point on the primal drives in each of us kicked into a higher gear and I asserted standard male mammalian control over the female. Platinum willingly, physiologically, submitted to my lead. I also knew when to assert control and I knew what to do once we got to the bed. But that’s another Blog.
As for Joe, he was a perfect representation of how men act around other men when women are around. Men are typically PHOBIC, in that anything they do in any way that might make them seem as a lesser man in the eyes of other men is unacceptable behavior and they will turn away from most experiences accordingly. And this unfortunately includes being seen out with an older woman.
Similarly, if Platinum would have kiddingly asked any of the other men at the bar “Are You Gay?” the way she did to me they would have likely taken it as a Dis to their honor. What men who act like this do not realize is that type of reaction to such a question in such a social setting is indeed a dishonor but it is a dishonor self emposed and thus a phobia.
Men’s phobias are very real & very powerful and usually work against a man’s psychological well being, as was the case with Joe. He perceived me as an Alpha male when he saw me out with the woman 20 years younger than me. That event plus his knowledge that I write about personal relationships problems and communication difficulities in general from a man’s perspective, in particular, the fact that we usually only want one thing, gave me a posture with Joe to indirectly council him about the woman in his building.
Yet, I knew the way to get to Joe, so he would at least listen was when I used the term dishonorable in describing the other men’s behavior toward Platinum. From that point on to the end of our conversation he became a “wide eyed” listener. The fact that Joe took my council and was able to reproduce similar results by letting go of his phobia when he engaged in a conversation with the woman in his building who was older then he, and that conversation eventually lead to sex validates the axiom and the theory.
As it stands as of this blog, I do not know the status of the relationship between Joe and the woman. I have only seen Platinum once since our evening together. She moved to SC and we do keep in touch via email.
Meanwhile, there’s much more interesting information to come on personal relationships problems and communication differences between the sexes in the era of empowered women. So stay connected.
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Saturday, October 18th, 2008
As a social theorist I have encountered a great many people who have misunderstandings and communication difficulties with the opposite sex, especially since we now live in the era of EMPOWERED WOMEN. Given the confusion men have about women and women have about men, is it any wonder why personal relationships problems abound, especially where sex can be involved?
…while those guys were having sex with their sock I was privileged to have been drenched in Platinum’s passion, poured out all over me like honey”!…
A few days after my wonderful encounter with Platinum I was once again in the bar and sitting with the same friend (I will call him Joe) who sat on my left side the night I hooked up with Platinum. As our typical conversation progressed, Joe, who knew I was writing a book about communicating with the opposite sex, was curious about “how it went with Platinum”?
When he asked that question, I said, “Joe, the only thing I can say is, it went well”. Then he asked, “She seemed older, was she”? I smiled and said, “Yea, I guess she was at that”. I could tell by his hesitation and his body language that Joe wanted to say or ask something else of a sensitive nature but before he did I continued,
“I’ll bet you’re curious about why I would go out with a woman older than myself when you already seen me out with a woman 20 years younger than me. Right”? Joe said, “exactly”. Then I said, “I have a knack for picking up on the vibs of women who are seriously pent up with untapped passion that needs to be tapped”. “And that need is pretty much an ageless need, especially in women Joe.”
Then I asked Joe, “Couldn’t you see the poise and sensuality that just oozed out of her”? Joe said, “Yea, I suppose I could”. Then I said, “But I’ll bet you were at least a little concerned about what all your other buddies would think of you if you went out with a woman older than you, much more, a woman with a few wrinkles, right?”
Joe said, “yea….you’re right”. I said, “And if I was not here Platinum would likely have been ignored by the men. Or maybe they would have made hurtful remarks about how her efforts to hold onto her youth is something foolish.” Joe nodded in agreement. I continued,
“Do you understand that this type of behavior in men is phobic and dishonorable”? Joe was now looking at me with a face of astonishment as I continued my rant. “All it serves to do is keep a man from reaching any where near his full potential as a heterosexual lover, this also means men simply don’t get laid well, nearly as often as they could. Yet, ironically, sex with women is pretty much all they’re after.”
Then with a full arm out stretched I pointed and waved my finger around the bar and continued, “The other night while those guys were having sex with their sock I was privileged to have been drenched in Platinum’s passion, poured out all over me like honey”! “And it was good Joe…Very very Good!”
Then Joe laughed and said to me, “Man, I can see why you’re writing a book, and now that I think about it,….you’re right.” Then Joe shifted gears. He said, “Gary, now that I really think about it there’s a woman in my building that keeps trying to get my attention but she’s older so I was not paying attention.” I said, “next time you see her, strike up a conversation, then invite her over for coffee”. “Then let nature take it’s course”.
A few days later Joe walked over to me at the bar and said, ”Hey Gary, just want ya ta know I took care of that little thing we were talking about”. As he said that he formed his right hand into a fist and moved his forearm like a piston.
So what do you think? Did I get through to Joe about personal relationships problems? Or did I just get him laid one night? BUT, that’s not the end of the story. The next part is the best part. Look for The Story of Platinum…(Part 3 of 3) Meanwhile,
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Sunday, October 12th, 2008
As a social theorist I have encountered a great many people who have misunderstandings and communication difficulties with the opposite sex, especially since we now live in the era of EMPOWERED WOMEN. Given the confusion men have about women and women have about men, is it any wonder why personal relationships problems abound, especially where sex can be involved?
MEN AND SEX: WHY THEY DON’T GET IT
…“as ridiculous as it seems most men will sit there wanting to have sex so bad they can taste it but then let their own phobias ruin any potential they might have to engage in sensational sex with a woman obviously as luscious as you Platinum“….
Embodied in these blogs are the applied theories and the unwritten rules or axioms of behavior in personal relationships as written in the book titled, “Love Du Jour” How to Communicate with the Opposite Sex in the Era of Empowered Women.
PLATINUM
I was standing in the foyer of a restaurant talking business on my cell phone when I caught sight of her. The first thing that truly captured my attention was a thick head of pure platinum blonde hair as it floated past my eyes.
She didn’t even glance at me as she made her way into the restaurant. She kept the straight ahead “dead pan” stare in the manner most women are taught to do from right out of the womb when they see a man who even glimpses in their direction. Even though I did not catch a frontal view of her I was intrigued.
Between the classic strut that all models learn to walk and her slight S curved figure I could tell this woman had poise which very naturally drew in my eye on to her shape. I even said to myself, “this babe got poise” as she walked past the restaurant entrance and into the bar. From that early perspective “Platinum” (which is the name I will use to call her) gave me the impression her age was somewhere under 40.
I quickly finished my phone call and a few seconds later I entered the bar to behold that Platinum sat herself into a chair at the corner of the U shaped bar exactly right angle to me. Meanwhile, an elder man who had followed me through the entrance door to the bar joined Platinum on her other side. This allowed a direct open communication area between Platinum and I, should we decide to speak.
To this point even though I was intrigued by Platinum I rather ignored her and went on with a prior conversation I was having with a friend seated next to me on my left. The topic we had been discussing was “movies”, more specifically, “screenplays”. The thing that caught Platinum’s attention (she told me later) was when I said, “There are several key elements to a successful screenplay. The subtext & sub plots are nearly as important as the main plot.”
A minute or so after that comment the bar tender sat a drink in front of me and said, “The drink is on this woman” as she nodded her head in the direction of Platinum. Then I said to myself, “My, my my!” I smiled at the drink because I knew it was Platinum’s cue to me that it was OK for me to approach her.
I thanked her for the drink, asked her name, and then said, “Platinum, I want you to know I could not help but notice you when you walked past me in the foyer. And I thought I could scent”, as I spoke I put my nose slightly in the air and leaned into her just a bit and continued, “what is that,” I sniffed the air again, “Is that Fendi, the scent of romance you’re wearing”?
At that, Platinum looked straight into my eyes and said, “Yes.” Then she smiled and said, “You’re not gay or anything are you”? My reaction was immediate. I busted out laughing and said, “My dear, I already love your sense of humor”. Then I raised my glass toward hers, we tipped them together and then I said, “For the record? Not gay. The girl stuff that I know I learned mostly from the women who I worked with over the years”.
Platinum changed the subject and introduced me to the man she was with. He was her brother in law who I had seen in the bar before. As it turned out Platinum was caught between places. One lease was up where she had been living and her condo in SC was not yet ready. Since Platinum’s sister did not want her staying with them they had found Platinum a temporary apartment about two miles from the bar and in the direction of my apartment.
It became a bit obvious to me there was some sort of issue between Platinum and her sister so I did not ask about it. But then I volunteered to the brother in law who I could tell was in a hurry that I would be happy to see to it that Platinum got home safely. Since he knew me as a regular at the bar he had no problem with it. When he asked Platinum if she agreed she just said, “terrific”. At that, the brother in law downed the rest of his drink and was out the door. And now that I knew Platinum was unattached I began to wonder if she was game for sex.
As our conversation continued I could tell Platinum was probably older than 40. In fact, I finally realized she was probably older than me. She had a few wrinkles perhaps but I could tell this woman put many resources into her youthful look. I could also tell that she was very used to getting her way with men.
However, despite her poise this woman was massively insecure. In the few hours we spent together she asked me the proverbial female question, “Am I Pretty?” no less than 30 times. And I managed to find about as many ways to answer, “You’re not just pretty. You’re fascinating”.
While we were still at the bar she asked, “How come no one was looking at me until you did, and only after I bought you a drink?” I said, “Simple, two reasons. One, most men in this bar would be intimidated by the way you carry yourself. Your look is powerful. And Two, because of a little thing called male ego they would likely be afraid of what the other guys would think of their manhood if they approached a woman with some age on her.”
I continued, “And as stupid as it sounds most men will sit there wanting to have sex so bad they can taste it but then let their own phobias ruin any potential they might have to engage in sensational sex with someone obviously as luscious as you, by pretending to ignore the very thing they want!”
It took Platinum a few seconds to process my words. While she did, I sat with a smile and politely stared straight at her. I was expecting her to ask why I waited for her to buy me a drink before I spoke with her and I had an answer for that, but finally Platinum looked me straight in the eyes and in a slow low tone, she said, “Gary, I think you’re right. Why don’t weeee get out of here?”
Long story short, we made passionate love for a couple hours complete with noise. I nibbled on every fleshy part that protruded from Platinum’s body. The result was she orgasmed twice before I entered her with my penis. Then she achieved a third orgasm via intercourse. When we parted later that evening, we both sported great big smiles. BUT, that’s not the end of the story.
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Sunday, September 28th, 2008
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….For a Social Theorist, insight is the main reason they are able to accurately theorize about specific subjects that actually matter to everyday people’s lives,….
It is a mistake to believe that a science consists in nothing but conclusively proved propositions, and it is unjust to demand that it should. It is a demand only made by those who feel a craving for authority in some form and a need to replace the religious catechism by something else, even if it be a scientific one. Science….consists mainly of statements which it has developed to varying degrees of probability. The capacity to be content with these approximations to certainty and the ability to carry on constructive work despite the lack of final confirmation are actually a mark of the scientific habit of mind. – Sigmund Freud
For anyone who has the gift of insight and presses on into the universal realm of creativity despite all apprehensions, Freud’s words are words to live by, and I for one admire you for it. – Gary James
As early as 6 years old and Long before I heard the term “Social Theorist” that my peers use to describe me I knew there were many aspects in many areas of life that seemed very incomplete to me. And in several instances as I matured I set out and did something about it.
I produced original theories in the fields of American Law as well as Health & Wellness.
In the field of Health & Wellness I coined the phrase “Nutritional Based Disorders”. Prior to my work in that field there was no such term in use. Since I published a few writings on the subject every major pharmaceutical company and a great many medical as well as alternative institutions now use the phrase routinely in that they recognize the immense influence that “food (and food supplements) as an actual therapy” has on the human condition regarding physical Health & Wellness.
As for American Law, my theory was so successful with regard to the protection of “inalienable rights” I was paid a visit by a couple “G” Men who convinced me to “keep to myself” about the convoluted reasoning I found that permeates the American system of Law to this day.
What people who make their living in the pursuit of those professions found interesting is, I produced hyper accurate, very useful, and original information for each of those professions, and I am not a physician or a lawyer. What I find interesting in their observation is, until they met me they did not see that as it stands now, in order to participate in their respective existing regimes as a licensed professional it becomes necessary to surrender or chiefly ignore their own God given insight.
For a Social Theorist insight is the main reason they are able to accurately theorize about specific subjects that actually matter to everyday people’s lives, and therefore it is vital to the profession of Social Theory that the theorist, remain free as possible from any encumbrances that could stifle their insight. And that is the case with me.
However, in the field of Social Science where I have made great headway into a new theory that reveals two elaborate psychological-sociological defense mechanisms unconsciously constructed by the masses over a long period of time in order to make life more tolerable on an everyday basis, besides insight, I hold a degree in psychology as well as business. My thesis, my right to proceed as a professional in this matter, is the book where I present my efforts titled, “The Mammalian Way” ™.
This effort began while I was still a teenager in college where I read the works of Sigmund Freud, Abraham Maslow, Carl Rodgers, B.F. Skinner, and Jean Piaget. I sensed even then the social sciences needed a more complete paradigm to explain the basic psychology of human behavior, especially instinctive behavior, although at the time I was far too timid to say so. As I took it upon myself to search for an accurate more complete picture of the human condition, after college, I went to work professionally in the grass roots area of production and for more than 30 years I made a living there. This vocation provided the perfect fodder for my psychology-sociology research because as a producer of the arts & entertainment it enabled me to interact with many thousands of the most diverse personalities and behavior patterns in people from all over the world.
Meanwhile, in order to obtain optimum benefit from the information presented in the book you need to apply the information in your own life and glean the benefits directly as much as you can. I have written the book as a source of reference for clinicians as well as a source of self-help for those who prefer that venue.
Since I do not encourage comments here, for further information about the theories and their use be sure to read my blog. http://www.garyjamesblogs.com OR, you may email me, gary.jms1@gmail.com I am the only one who reads that mail. Or try facebook where my user name is garyjames.
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