Help with Violence
…Perversions Of Honor™ (POH) in men is at the root of why our culture faces many of the social woes we do….
[In order for you to grasp a useful understanding of the information presented here you need to obtain a copy of the book titled, The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) to use as a reference guide.]
Whatever you might think about James Holmes the alleged gunman of the “Movie Theater Massacre”, one thing is for sure…what he did cannot be fixed with anything even remotely related to gun control and I doubt that it ever could be. Meanwhile,
Given the state of the current culture in America is it really so unusual to imagine that any man who is virtually unprepared to survive in the real world can end up a mass murderer?
Whether your answer is yes, no, or maybe, the fact is, unusual or not, most people in our culture view the violent behavior displayed by James Holmes as unacceptable… and rightly so… Still, we are left to wonder what could create the motive for shooting 80 people out of what seems like the “blue clear sky”….
When horrific displays of behavior occur, many people simply assume that it must be one of the various psychotic disorders that was prompted to the surface of James Holmes life that became his motivation and leave it at that because it seems reasonable and provides a measure of solace for those who feel victimized by what he allegedly did.
But, for the sake of feeling safe, the question of how do we pre-empt the James Holmes Syndrome from occurring in the first place will likely still end up a debate of “How’d he do dat?” At best the answers will lead to more restrictions imposed that are intent on saving people from themselves…. And even though the records show that restrictions never truly keep people from acquiring anything deemed to be contraband…. It would at least be some measure of effort to improve the risk of someone else’s (ala James Holmes) undiagnosed psychotic disorder affecting the everyday lives of the “people.” Right?
Well, under the circumstances restrictions might seem to be the optimum approach to resolve what to do to abate what is deemed to be overt psychotic behavior before it happens….. That is unless you are familiar with the force of nature indigenous to all humans known as The Mammalian Way™ (TMW).
However, if you are familiar with my discovery of TMW then you already have a sense that what seems like James Holmes psychotic behavior is merely one of the possible manifestations of men’s Perversions of Honor™ (POH). What’s more,
Earth wide, all heterosexual males past the age of puberty are prone to POH. It is a psychological coping mechanism that emerges from men in various ways and it helps them to cope with an ever increasing imperfectly safe, negatively charged environment that otherwise would decimate a man’s very sensitive, sense of honor instinct. Sociologically speaking, some of the ways that POH manifests in men can be quite benign and some ways are quite unconscionable.
To call the mass murder of at least a dozen people and injuring dozens more an example of unconscionable behavior in men is a safe assumption in our culture to be sure….. But WHY? Or rather WHERE? Where does such unconscionable behavior in men that “seems” to spring up out of nowhere come from?
The answer to that question is actually quite simple. It comes from the behavior motivated by the POH coping mechanism that emerges in men to temporarily protect a man’s sense of honor drive from becoming decimated until some actual honor comes along.
And, even though POH emerges as a protective device for one of his more powerful INSTINCTIVE needs namely Honor…. POH as a coping mechanism emanates from a man’s Cognitive Capacity (CC) independent of the instinct itself. It’s his CC that manufactures fake or faux honor that passes for honor until actual honor replaces the POH and thus it helps a man to keep an emotional balance given the environmental conditions that his honor drive faces day to day in the real world…
In other words, the POH coping mechanism can & does operate independently of the honor instinct…. and so the ability to discern behavior motivated by faux honor (egotism) that is socially acceptable from the behavior motivated by faux honor that is not socially acceptable gets clouded and even lost . That is to say, a man’s Perversions of Honor™ coping mechanism as a temporary replacment for his actual sense of honor instinct places the exact same soical value on ALL manifestations of POH!
And therein lay the inherent danger because whether a man perverts his honor to cope with a lack of actual honor by becoming a video gamer who loves comic-con conventions (a benign example of POH) or whether he perverts his honor by becoming a mass murderer in order to command respect and receive much needed attention from the people he encounters (an unconscionable example of POH) is all the same to his POH coping mechanism. Ironically, it's the thing that is designed to help protect survival of the species that becomes the species own worst enemy…..
Whether a gamer or a killer…. A POH is a POH is a POH with no particular social value attached to it and nothing more… and so motives that emerge from his POH coping mechanism carry no genuine social parameters attached to them the way they would with a man’s actual honor instinct engaged…. So, FYI, it wasn’t a psychotic disorder that got the best of James Holmes…. It was his overly dissed honor instinct that prompted his coping mechanism called POH that was in turn unable to protect his honor drive from becoming decimated… and the result was his POH manifest in one of the more unconscionable possibilities of perverted behavior. And I am certain this is what got the best of James Holmes and motivated him to shoot 80 people… AND this possibility was predictable enough that it could have been averted…. But that’s another blog…
Meanwhile, the more educated you are about TMW and POH in men the better prepared you will be to deal with the inevitable failures that go with whatever successes a man gleans living in an imperfectly safe world….
Make no mistake about it TMW affects us all especially in the area of personal relationships such as Girl Meets Guy… and I seriously doubt that the down side of TMW and POH can be fixed on the macro level of life…
So that begs the question, “what do we do to fix the downside of TMW and POH on the micro level of life?” But that too is another blog… Meanwhile,
Begin to educate yourself by obtaining and reading the book, The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) or perhaps listening to the audio series devoted to helping you build better relationships in the real world without giving up on the Fairytales that make life more worth living…. Rather, such knowledge of TMW that is a gift from nature will help you to make your Fairytales a reality…. Don’t leave home without knowing how TMW operates on your life…. Because sociologically speaking, men as part of an overall species are becoming increasingly worse in their behavior toward women and toward our society as a whole….. Bye for now…. Gary James
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