Please note the new page headings. They are a wealth of information about what to do in the way of mitigating TEEN VIOLENCE (especially in dating or relationships) as well as WOMEN: HOW TO SHOP FOR MEN….IT'S FUN!

And it's but two more examples of where & how The Mammalian Way™ group of instincts profoundly affects human social behavior in our culture. The answers are right before you. Take in accurate knowledge of how to benefit by it's influence and feel your quality of life improve.

LADIES: Right up front allow me to explain I did not invent The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) . It is a gift from nature to all human beings, but many people do not know it exists… just yet. I discovered it, uncovered it, drafted a reasonable theory, and constructed a working model of how it operates on human social behavior. I did this in order to help you understand how to use it in your everyday life as the protection and the socialization tool it is meant to be.

But why even bother to care about making a mammalian connection with another human being? Actually you make mammalian connections all the time. Most of the ones your instincts initiate for you with other humans will disintegrate very quickly because we use our brain’s cognitive capacity to interfere with TMW’s processes. And that can be a good or bad thing…

On the other hand, most people have routinely formed a cross species mammalian connection with their pets (primarily dogs & cats). The mammalian connection is why pets respond to you and grow to love you. That’s because the mammalian connection between you and your dog or cat is the place where love grows. It’s a mammalian thing! And it works! It’s the lowest common denominator in building relationships with other mammals, and as your knowledge of TMW grows you are going to find that this mammal to mammal, mammal to animal relationship building tool includes human to human interaction.

As another example, there is a saying that goes, “when a stranger walks into your house watch the reaction that your kids and dogs have toward that stranger.” Whereby, if the dogs & kids don't like the stranger… then you should especially beware….

This “saying” comes from the fact that the dog establishes an accurate read on the stranger using their mammal instincts…. and so do the kids. Why the kids? Simple; kids do not develop a mature use of their cognitive capacity until they reach the age of 25. Kids rely much more on their mammal instincts. You just might not call it mammal instincts….

Meanwhile, mammalian connections are a normal occurrence for humans because we use them all the time. Part of what I uncovered in the process of discovering how TMW fully functions to help humans form relationship bonds with each other is how essential the mammalian connection is to building a solid relationship with the opposite gender. I discovered it’s the place where love & attraction attaches itself to in order to grow, and it’s also the place where monogamous bonding forms & grows. TMW over all is a very useful tool for quickly sifting through men without necessarily having to date them in order to find The One! 

HOWEVER, as with most things in nature TMW follows very specific processes. And those processes need to be followed accordingly in order to achieve successful positive results. And that’s where we humans have managed to ““F” it up!”

 We use (or rather we misuse) the cognitive capacity (CC) of our brain to interfere with TMW processes, especially in the area of Girl meets GUY; i.e., the act of meeting, dating, mating, and over all relationship building with the opposite gender.

And when we interfere with TMW process of Girl meets Guy the end result is usually a failed relationship because either her set of TMW instincts, his set of TMW instincts, or both sets of TMW instincts will reject either her, him, or both of you, as not being The One!

If & when YOUR instincts reject HIM, or HIS instincts reject YOU, then believe it or not, your CC or his CC becomes pretty much useless in turning the relationship back around. This one factor is the chief reason why there are so many relationships that start out as two people who are deeply in love only to end up as two people who cannot stand to look at each other. They interfered with or did not nurture the mammalian connection.

When the instincts reject you or him it damages or breaks the mammalian connection, because TMW connection needs to be nurtured, because the nurturing is what helps the love & attraction that attaches to the mammalian connection to take root and to grow.

It’s the damage to the mammalian connection that causes the love, attraction, commitment, monogamous bonding, etc. to fade which in turn causes the relationship to fail. FYI, this scenario is prevalent to relationships within human culture.

SO, why am I placing this blog in the messages to women category? BECAUSE, long ago nature decided that NO human relationship can develop between a man and a woman until SHE picks the male. And so it all begins with Y-O-U! And even though it is a social norm for men to do the asking the reality is, his process of asking no matter how flagrant is from the making of a mammalian connection perspective, essentially a showing off of his pretty feathers for the woman just like male birds do for the female birds.

HOWEVER, you picking him is only the first half of PART A for making a mammalian connection in the Girl meets Guy process. There’s much more about this extremely important relationship building information in the book and even more in the audio series.

ALSO, I am on a mission to help the generation of women alive now to become the first generation to utilize TMW as the socialization tool it was meant to be. It’s actually fun to learn to apply TMW into your everyday life. To date, every woman who has learned to apply TMW into their everyday lives has never returned to the old paradigm of thinking about relationships, especially with the opposite gender. It provides women (and men) with more happiness and less pain to be sure….  

I humbly suggest you get the book and read it. I will also inform you each time I add an audio to the series….  knowledge of TMW is relationship power. Click here to read the book

Best to you….. Gary James

I can accurately profile any woman-man relationship in less than an hour everytime and I can teach Y-O-U to do it too…

It starts with you reading the book or listening to the audio series that supports the book titled,The Mammalian Way™ (TMW).

Thus far there has been a 100% success rate in people who improve their quality of life becasue when they apply the knowledge from the book into their everyday life they can "see" what's going on inside their own relationships.

The reason for such accuracy and success rate is because I did not invent TMW. It's nature's gift to human kind. That's why you can trust it… All I did was to discover it, then drafted a reasonable theory, and I built a workable model of how it fully functions. All I am is your teacher until you can stand on your own two feet.

Women and men both learn more about each other and the true nature of our needs….More to come….Best to you, Gary James.

[In order for you to grasp a useful understanding of the information presented here you need to have read or have available the book titled, The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) as a reference guide.]

All heterosexual males are prone to Perversions of Honor™ (POH). It’s a coping mechanism that automatically emerges out of it’s parent force of nature called The Mammalian Way™ (TMW). [TMW is made up of three existing mammal instincts given to humans at birth and beginning at puberty they congeal into a singular force of nature when Girl meets Guy. Their main function is to help underwrite survival of the species by making sure that female mammals seek out worthy male mammals for the purpose of mating…. Men naturally “seeing” women as sex objects first and women who can become radically insecure when they finally “see” a male they deem worthy are two examples of TMW at work upon human social behavior.] Meanwhile,

POH in men can emerge in quite a number of ways as a temporary faux solution (fake honor) when genuine honor is unavailable. However, too much POH can and will eventually corrupt the honor drive when it is used as an overall replacement to men receiving enough genuine honor.

Junior Seau and many others like him committed suicide and many people think that it’s because of the potential damage done to the brain as a result of the frequent head trauma associated with football. From what I’ve read I believe head trauma can play a role in the reaction to commit suicide….. But so can POH in men…. And it brings pain to many people.

What’s more, just from what I’ve read I am reasonably certain that POH is also responsible for why Jerry Sandusky allegedly turned to young boys for sex….

Now, I share this bit of profiling with you in brief-broad strokes…. Jerry Sandusky was evidently not receiving enough sex from his wife (sex is one of the three main mammal instincts that make up TMW) and he did not receive enough honor after he retired from football.

 PLUS, during his career he stayed in the shadow of Joe Paterno as the heir apparent for decades watching Jopa receive honor that he could have gleaned for himself. And these two things combined (no sex, no honor to mention put him in the state of Double Dis) and it drove his mammalian instincts cuckoo crazy! And the way he reacted is most definitely a POH and it is to some degree predictable.  

Similarly, Junior Seau’s mammalian instincts also went cuckoo crazy when he realized the abundant source of genuine honor he received during his career had basically dried up. Only he saw it as, he didn’t matter anymore.

The real danger for men and the pain it can cause in relying on the POH coping mechanism in place of genuine honor is the facts that,

1) POH actually emerges out of human cognitive capacity (something that all other mammals do not possess and do not have to contend with)

2) Mammal instincts cannot distinguish between socially acceptable vs unacceptable cognitive behavior motivated by POH. It means that a man; who has sex with young boys, or commits suicide, or is too stubborn to ask for directions when he’s lost because he thinks it would make him look weak, are all the same thing to a man’s mammal instincts once the POH engages. And the POH engaging is not his call because it occurs automatically.

A man can only modulate how the POH manifests. But unless he knows that the POH exists (and/or accidently engages it in ways that our culture accepts or overlooks) he will likely have no clue that he has done anything wrong if his behavior is not socially acceptable. I maintain that the POH in men is at the root of why our culture faces many of the social woes we do…. And we need to pay much more attention to it’s powerful influence over men’s behavior. 

As it is, we have two different men professionally involved with football that faced a genuine honor crisis, with two very different outcomes that were both motivated at least in part by the misunderstanding of the POH coping mechanism.  

The lesson here is simple: You cannot reason away your mammal instincts. They must be contended with. Some of the answers of how to apply TMW as well as the POH mechanism without it costing a man dearly are in the book. Some are in the audio series now in production.

I am the discoverer of TMW. It took nearly three decades to uncover it, draft a theory, and construct a working model. Thus far I have helped very many people (heterosexual women and men) contend with their mammal instincts that subsequently served to help improve their quality of life, less pain, more pleasure… You have an opportunity now to help others as well as yourself…..  Knowing how TMW fully functions never fails to produce positive results….Not knowing how TMW fully functions can cause you grief galore in your personal life… Learn to abate or avoid the pain that POH in men can cause. 

I suggest you read the book, listen to the relevant audios, and/or contact me if you wish to talk. By the way, I feel terrible for the many people who are in pain & anguish over the circumstances that surround the lives of Junior Seau and Jerry Sandusky. My thoughts & prayers go out to you.   

Best Wishes,

Gary James

ADELE’S TMW ANALYSIS: Adele meets Slinky. He helps her to realize adulthood. However, the mammalian connection bond that formed between them was evidently weak because HIS TMW instincts did not “see” her as THE ONE, so his TMW instincts kept pounding at him from the inside out to continue his search for THE ONE. He did that and he might have even cheated on Adele and lied about it in the process. (Men are veritable slaves to TMW but they also fight against it ferociously because men are very phobic when it comes to emotions. It’s why men cheat and why they are prolific liars when it comes to relationships).  At any rate for whatever reason there was… you can tell that Slinky lost his power in her TMW instincts "eyes" because in one interview she stated, "I really don't know what I saw in him"…. So, Adele & Slinky break up and it was a painful experience for Adele to be sure…

And now there’s Simon. From what I’ve read He & she are currently getting on just fine. But since Adele is still unfamiliar with the tenets of TMW I can SEE that she runs the risk of repeating the same errors that she made with Slinky. For example, a woman in love will often deny her own instincts to a fault. This is one thing that happened with Slinky. For many months Adele ignored the signals her instincts were sending her that Slinky was not the one. And it’s because she does not yet know how TMW operates and so she does not trust her judgment with men….And even though her relationship with Slinky has likely taught her something of herself that put her cognitive judgment more in line with her instincts as a result of her experience with Slinky it might not help her at all with Simon.

Unless Adel is in touch with how TMW operates she is poised to make the same errors again & again… It’s possible for her to wise up by learning some things about TMW’s influence through trial & error (but that’s the very long way to put her cognitive judgment more in line with her instincts which is something she can learn to do by simply reading my book and applying it to her life RIGHT NOW). But if she cognitively decides the old paradigm of trial & error is the way then she will also be running a race against time before she finds herself so stressed out over relationship issues that she becomes ready to compromise her standards or just gives up….

And in doing something like that Adele is just like millions of other women who do not trust their own judgment when it comes to men….By the way, that’s the game changer for a woman because once she knows how TMW operates INSIDE EACH GENDER (and the sooner the better) she will then be able to trust her own instincts and make confident and accurate judgment calls on men….and her life in relationships becomes more fulfilling, happier, and safer). Plus, men overall are getting worse and worse in the way they treat women and I am certain it can only be fixed as a one on one process using TMW as the social tool it was meant to be….      

Meanwhile, I suggest you read my book NOW, listen to the audios, visit the web site and set yourself free…. Be well, Best Wishes,

Gary James

Every heterosexual relationship that has ever been built, or crashed into nothing has involved or does involve The Mammalian Way™ force of nature. There is no escaping it because it’s a part of nature’s way to protect human species survival… even if you were to say, “I’ve given up on relationships”.  

I discovered & represent the corner stone in understanding about the true Reality of Relationships and I speak FOR the instincts. There are three main instincts that converge into a single force of nature called The Mammalian Way™ (Pronounced, Ma-MAIL-YUN) when “Girl meets Guy”.

I make this very overt statement because at this point in time I am uniquely qualified to speak for The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) instincts and I am also the leader of an ever growing number of people who are in the process of assimilating how to harness this power and use it as a survival tool in order to help keep their relationships as well as their lives happier & safer.

My books, blog, web site, and drama series, are dedicated to the mission of helping both genders acquire what they truly desire from engaging in the same relationship.

FOR WOMEN this translates into an overall sense of feeling secure that comes with knowing certain truths, like when you know a secret to a fast & special service that everyone else stands in line to receive. Plus, the men you meet will no longer be a mystery. And it will become much easier for you to choose which man for what purpose, because TMW opens the pathway for a woman to actually "have it all". 

FOR MEN it translates into receiving better quality treatment from the woman/women they encounter not to mention the distinct possibility of receiving actual “A” grade sex (maybe this will be for the first time in your life).

And it’s all because you will finally know the secrets of The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) of things (stuff that your parents would have told you but they did not know about TMW themselves).

TMW is simply several of your instincts that congeal into a single force of nature when Girl meets Guy. So without fear you need to get to know them as The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) because they never ever change and they have but one goal; Human species survival. And oddly enough they will leave you in emotional and physical pain & anguish if you do anything to interrupt their process of protecting species survival.

So, unless everything is already wonderful with your love-life it's very important to your well being that you start to understand TMW right away. The sooner you do the sooner you avoid the pain and enjoy the benefits….  

Be sure to visit the web site right now for further information or to order the book or an audio by clicking here.

Copyright (C) Gary James 2012 all rights reserved

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FINALLY!

Someone has discovered that there is a very specific Starting Point where all relationships connect, begin, and end.  Over thirty years of research went into discovering an existing Law of Nature (similar to gravity), only this law applies to human relationships and it's now known as The Mammalian Way.

So if you desire to have a wonderful relationship(s) with lots of happiness, and little if any pain, then first you need to read The Mammalian Way.  It will improve your ability to have a a happy fulfilling love life.  I know because his book helped me…….Mia Randals, Paveginnias project-leader and personal manager for Gary James, a professional Social Theorist and author of The Mammalian Way.

Because of his dedication to finding the TRUTH of why so many relationships fail, and his continuous efforts in creating and perfecting this theory, I am a survivor today.  Mr. James' unique understanding of both Men and Women has finally brought to light the deepest nature of how human (mammalian) relationships work.

Once you read The Mammalian Way, I guarantee that you will come to have a clearer, more precise understanding of who you are as a Man/Woman and how your very nature plays the biggest role in every relationship you've had, or will have. 

Become a relationship survivor with me, and get your own copy of The Mammalian Way.  You can have more Happiness, with far less Pain, and understand how to keep your relationship on track by following this simple Law of Nature. 

Copyright (C) Gary James – Paveginnias Project 2010 all rights reserved

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ALL THEY DO IS LISTEN IN ON CONVERSATIONS AND LEARN HOW THE LAW OF NATURE KNOWN AS “THE MAMMALIAN WAY” CAN GIVE PEOPLE GREAT HAPPINESS OR UNNECESSARY PAIN……

Conversations with Men: If you think women are confused about men. Just listen in and learn what men do know about women and what they don’t know about themselves when it comes to sex, romance, and love. No “A” grade sex for those guys only “B” grade sex at best.

Conversations with Women: Women get an easy read on men because they know men only want one thing….or at least that’s how it seems. What they don’t know is WHY men seem to be getting worse and WHAT it is that women truly want.

You need to go to my radio show and check out the information you’ll find useful in your own relationships.

ATTENTION: I have decided to produce radio dramas to further enhance the value of how men and women benefit by knowledge of how to use “The Mammalian Way” for more pleasure & happiness and less pain in everyday decisions made in relationships.

Regardless of the program you listen to, you need a copy of the book to get the most of the terms and other mammalian way speak used in the dramas and conversations. Bye for now.

I do not encourage comments here. You may comment at my show or email me at garyjamesauthor@live.com

Gary James

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Here is another segment of “Personal Relationship Therapy”. A brief synopsis of the story of “Valentines Day Joe” who followed “The Mammalian Way”, was able to read her behavior, temporarily shed his phobias, impress his love interest as only an independent man is able to do, in order to have his woman feel truly special,… and then be handsomely rewarded with the best sex of his life,….. and then receive a bonus to boot!

Listen to the 15 minute excerpt from the audio curriculum “The Mammalian Way”(TMW).

“MEN: HOW TO ATTRACT WOMEN, TREAT THEM WITH THE DIGNITY THEY DESERVE AND NOT BE SEEN AS A CLUELESS, CLASSLESS, ASS OR A WHUSS”

Men & Women learn that TMW can be seen as a “silent language for people who engage in relationships and the closest thing to communication via telepathy that humans possess in abundance”…..AND NOT ONLY FOR SEX, LOVE, AND ROMANCE…TMW can be applied to business or even a poker game….Tune in….listen & learn. The book can be acquired at www.themammalianway.com The audios can be acquired by direct contact, garyjamesauthor@live.com “The Mammalian Way” will change your life for the better…More pleasure…Less Pain…I promise..

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OK, Big Ben Rothliesberger is the youngest NFL quarterback to win a super bowl. In fact he's has two Super Bowl rings. But amongst 20 year old women, who do you think they are most apt to recognize, Ben Rothliesberger or this other guy?

And this is a perfect example of how "The Mammalian Way" instincts influence human behavior. Rothliesberger has learned a little bit about the swager of an Alpha male. and he is considered so because 1) He's a successful jock and 2) All the other men who surround Ben see him as an Alpha male. These facts and others like it are what lull men into a "Perversions of honor" mind set. Meanwhile, I doubt that any of the women in the Atlanta club the night Ben Rothliesberger was accused of sexual assult (for the second time) by a 20 year old woman knew who he was.

What men do not get yet is the rules that constitute "The Mammalian Way" is not up for debate. It is a law of nature the same as Gravity. The number one rule is…WOMEN PICK MEN FOR SEX…MEN DO NOT PICK WOMEN. And that also goes for who is an alpha male. That is, if she does not see you as an alpha male worthy of sex with her it does not matter who YOU think you are….YOU ain't crap!

On the other hand, if the other guy (Robert Pattinson star of the Twilight Saga) would have walked into the Atlanta club behind Rothliesberger that night I would bet mortgage money that in less than a minute the 20 year old women would have recognized him…In less than five minutes Pattinson would have been surrounded by women like bees to honey.

Ben Rothliesberger has been bitten in the balls twice now because he either does not know or chooses to ignore the powerful influence "The Mammalian Way" instincts have over the social behavior between men & women…especially where sex can become a factor. And just like gravity, if you violate a law of nature you will usually pay the price even if you don't know the law exists. Ben (and millions of men like him) face many issues with women and they desperately need to read my book. In short order it can teach men how to treat women with the dignity they deserve without the risk of women seeing you as a clueless, classless, ass…or a whuss!

And when that happens men do not have to worry about how to meet women. Treat them right and women WILL pick you. That's "The mammalian Way". It's the unwritten communication between men & women…But that's another blog

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