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Wednesday, April 30th, 2014

lasso vaginaHilary Clinton, Maria Shriver, Sandra Bullock, Eva Longoria, Elin Nordegren, Katy Perry, Demi Moore, Jenny Sanford, Adele, etc. are all examples of women who became a Captured Vagina (CV) Conquered Vagina (CON-V) or both, within the Personal Relationship (PR) they had with the “man in their life” at the time.

The women I mention in the paragraph above are/were at one point or another reasonably famous. I use their stories as examples of empowered women who became a CV within their PR because their stories are relatively easy for you to research on the internet. You will find in each instance, she’s in a PR that appears to be healthy and doing fine, perhaps even with a tone of a fairytale relationship with THE ONE or a soul-mate…  Only to find suddenly that the relationship was little more than fodder for her to have become a captured vagina… All of these women mentioned were in fact a CV within a PR that for practical purposes from its inception did not really exist as her perceptions saw the relationship…  

CV JUJU Meanwhile, regardless of your socio-economic status, heterosexual women tend to be attracted to what you personally perceive in a man as his power. Such attraction can greatly influence (positive or negative) your social behavior because it emanates from the built in (instinctive-cognitive) coping mechanism called, Pendulum Swing of Insecurity (PSOI)*. The attraction toward a man’s power is the same physiological need for security you might have for sex & romance that sweeps through your life’s Personal Relationships (PR) like a pendulum; always moving but barely a place to ever set down all the insecurity at one time. Your uncanny need for security is also a woman’s birthright to rule over the social behavior between the genders as matriarch (just like the other female creatures who’s species fall within the categories of animal/mammal).

None the less, a place to set down all your insecurity and the right to rule the PR’s in your life almost never happen to a woman in a PR because the premise for the emotional-psychological benefits to permeate your PR’s was likely carved from your life by some guy (or guys) on or around the time you completed puberty.

Gary at 6In other words, the reason that so many 21st century women (including you) are prone to becoming a Captured Vagina is because MEN knowingly (cognitively) or unknowingly (instinctively) through the course of a PR set it up that way. They leave you with little choice than to put yourself in a position within a PR to risk becoming a CV at HIS leisure from the relationship’s inception…

The question is, *what can be done to avert or abate being at risk in the first place? *What can be done to avoid your life being blindsided by a PR that had NO mammal connection beyond Sex (if that) with him? For those answers and more please be on the lookout for the release of my new book that shares with you what to do. In the meantime, if you have questions email me at


Gary James

(C) Gary James 2014

*[See books and audios for further information]



Monday, March 31st, 2014

CV JUJUA woman’s risk of becoming a Captured Vagina (CV) status (or its related cousin called Conquered Vagina (CON-V)) while in a Personal Relationship (PR) with a man, boils down to the silent influencer and the lowest common denominator for all emotional-psychological manifestations of both genders in personal relationships (PR’s) called, The Mammalian Way™* (TMW). [TMW is a force of nature that plays a role in the social behavior between men & women in a Personal Relationship (PR) where sex is also a factor or can become a possibility no matter how remote, for either person in the PR…]*

Without the direction of how TMW functions, initially, we humans tend to use our Cognitive Capacity (CC) to discount the influence TMW has over PR’s at the instinctive level of life. You are now beginning to learn that over many millennium human beings (women more so than men) have paid a very dear price for this lack of knowledge…**.This is one reason why my focus is on how TMW can affect women who have, or want to have a quality PR with a male. Another good reason to focus on women’s needs is the fact that it is the woman who picks the man for a PR.  

With that in mind there are numerous issues, sub issues, and consequences** that can be discussed about how TMW silently influences human social behavior between the genders. For the sake of brevity in a blog-post venue, I will share in this post one of the more compelling scenarios that women are prone to do and to repeat if they do not know how TMW functions.

It is a two-fold issue that also carries a very high-risk consequence of you becoming a Captured Vagina (CV).  


With the possible exception of the so-called unexplainable attraction that a woman has for a particular man, most heterosexual women past the age of puberty when they get involved in a PR with a man will…

1) Likely tend to ignore or suppress your social-survival instincts as they attempt to communicate with you.

 2) You will most often erroneously think you can change a man. Whereby, the thinking you do and the subsequent actions you take with regard to changing a man’s behavior in a PR is a cognitive notion. Such notions of the mind, no matter how well intended are merely guessing when measured against how a man actually reacts to you instinctively. The notion of changing a man (or a woman) to suit your cognitive perceptions of him or the PR you have with him will just as often reveal how woefully inaccurate the judgment put forth by the human brain’s Cognitive Capacity (CC) can become in light of the reality that people do not change. Rather, they emerge.

Fortunately, when you understand this distinction in human behavior it will allow for the ordinary emergence & functioning of TMW instincts into human social interaction even though you tend to suppress*it. This function is necessary because your social-survival instincts are directly attached to Survival of the Species (SOS). Such a close attachment to the most primal motivation for all living creatures is the basis for what creates TMW bond.

Included in this bond are such elements as, scent, touch, taste, sound sleep, sexual attraction, and the place where love attaches itself to in order to grow, etc. These and more all go into forming TMW bond that without which YOUR SOCIAL-SURVIVAL INSTINCTS WILL NOT PERCEIVE THE EXISTENCE OF A PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM…of course this can represent an extreme danger to nearly all PR’s right from the beginning because beyond sexual attraction most people do not recognize the bonding process or they use their CC to interfere with TMW bond being formed… and that's bad for the PR to say the least…

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Meanwhile, the close connection to SOS is the chief reason why TMW’s influence simply cannot be ignored without consequence(s).  Once you digest my work, you will see that TMW is a closed system, perfectly suited for humans to balance their Cognitive abilities with their instinctive inheritance for the sake of SOS. From this emerges;

 A) Humans as the dominate species for all of earth’s creatures and

B) The ability to gain genuine equality between the human genders by instinctively as well as cognitively knowing how to care for each other’s needs. (If/when your emotional-psychological needs are being cared for it also substantially reduces the risk of becoming a CV)**

On the other hand, it is misunderstanding TMW’s instinctive influence over a PR that is the chief reason why a woman’s efforts to influence a man’s behavior from a predominantly Cognitive perspective in a PR (and suppressing the instincts) usually fails miserably.

A perfect example of how such a scenario can play out in everyday life is embodied in the question.  “How many former couples do you know of that started out claiming to be soul-mates (or the likes) who might even get married, then a few months or a few years later they cannot stand to look at each other or even be in the same room?”

When this or a similar scenario occurs in your life, rest assured that no instinctive mammal bond has formed (Remember: Sexual attraction is only one aspect of a complete mammal bond). Along with this lack of a mammal bond comes a powerful sense that you are/were little more than a CV for him even though you might not be familiar with the term, Captured Vagina*…  


CV BOWLWhy such a scenario that easily leads to you becoming a CV in his life can occur in such abundance is because you fall for your own cognitive illusion of a man and/or the illusion that he can be "changed". You might even tell yourself that you don’t want to change him. This is another cognitive fallacy because your instincts MUST connect to his in order to form TMW bond that facilitates the emergence of his honor instinct into your PR. Most often the bonding process initially FEELS like he’s changing when he’s simply emerging the particular instinctive qualities already inside him that your instinctive emotional needs require and see in him, that as they emerge solidifies the part of a PR that makes YOU feel safe AND special… …

PLUS, if you have ignored or suppressed your instincts (or you have not been taught nature's process to assimilate them into a relationship) then there is likely NO mammal bond forming and without that bond then your own instincts will eventually reject him as THE ONE regardless of what your CC can conjure up in your imagination.

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His instincts silently rejecting you (and your instincts silently rejecting him) is what typically causes most PR’s to erode into oblivion long before the actual-tangible troubles emerge between you…

Meanwhile, by the time your CC and your instincts catch up to the fact your soul mate is disintegrating from the inside out most men are already astute at relying on their innate coping mechanism called, Perversions of Honor™ (POH) in Men.* The POH in men is the male counterpart to the Pendulum Swing of Insecurity™ (PSOI) in women.* It’s where all of his emotions lay. 

However (and here’s the bad part) because of the increasingly Imperfectly Safe World (ISW) environment that humans currently live in, most men in a PR with a woman are prone to use their POH coping mechanism to deceive women (as well as himself) into "believing" that he IS/CAN BECOME what she wants him to become. ….

He generally behaves in this deplorable manner almost unconsciously for the sake of his own ego(tism) as opposed to his honor. He is essentially able to pass on ego(tism) as though it were honor and temporarily gets your instincts to BUY IT because there’s one congruent element between men’s ego(tism) {False Honor} and his actual honor instinct that your instincts also recognize, namely, the Hunter-Gatherer (HG)***  element.

In my next blog-post on the subject of a woman becoming a CV, I will explain the perverted process that deceives women into becoming a Captured Vagina of her own free will…

Gary James

*[See the books and audios for further information.]


 **[See the post on this blog regarding the “Cornucopia of Confusion” for a partial explanation of the consequences.]


 ***[I have released an audio called Honor Vs Ego(tism) in Men that more fully explains what a woman can do to identify ego from honor in a man’s social behavior and what can be done about it to avoid becoming a CV. I highly recommend all heterosexual women past puberty listen to it.]

Copyright © Gary James 2014




Monday, February 24th, 2014

As unflattering or unsavory as it may seem, given the overall emotional-psychologically charged, imperfectly safe, environment(s) that human’s (and in particular for this post) a woman’s survival instincts as well as her brain’s Cognitive Capacity (CC) face, throughout her life, there emerges a rather unavoidable challenge within the personal relationships she forges with men. That is, the vast majority of heterosexual (straight) women will sooner or later, likely end up becoming a Captured Vagina (CV) for some guy at least once in her life… The results of which are usually not welcome because her life is typically blindsided and/or traumatized by the experience(s)…  

Moreover, most women who have been traumatized by the realization that she has become a Captured Vagina (CV) within a personal relationship with a man might not recognize it as such when it happens to them. However, she sure does identify with how it feels! Especially as the why & how she became a CV and what can be done about it is explained.   

Right here is the first hurdle to overcome. That is, to identify the actual issue(s) at work which turn her into a CV (In HIS mind’s eye). This is important because prior to reading my work many women typically refer to elements of the process which turn her/you into a CV by some other name or phrase (“why don’t he commit?” or, “when we became a couple he was wonderful but lately he’s been a complete A-Hole”, etc.). These are examples of the signals or warning signs that you are becoming a CV…

CV BOWLBut as the explanations mount, your confusion about why men genuinely behave the way they do, will tend to fade. Along with this, you will very quickly relate to the Captured Vagina (CV) as a syndrome because you are living “it”.

 So, what can cause multitudes of 21st Century women who swear they are empowered and have shown they “do not need a man to survive” to become trapped in a physiological state called a Captured Vagina (CV)?

The answers are easy to say and relatively easy for a woman to feel an accurate sense of, but let me assure you that explaining the why & how a 21st Century woman can easily become trapped in such a state within her personal relationship with a man takes more than a couple or a few blog posts. However, it is a reasonable place to start…


Initially you might not believe what I am about to share and that is your choice. But two things are certain; 1) it is not likely that any efforts from all of human kind combined will ever change the way your social-survival instincts function. Most people who think that they can/have accomplished such a feat are only exercising suppression, repression, or the likes. (FYI, I have not fully explained the social-survival instincts yet)… 2) Over many millennium men have tried every way imaginable to trample a woman’s social-survival instincts out of existence (FYI, there’s a very good reason for this grotesque behavior which I will also explain later). Meanwhile,

There are consequences (some of them are dire) for both genders whenever you discount the power of your instincts because they are an innate birthright. [See the post on this blog regarding the “Cornucopia of Confusion” for a partial explanation of the consequences.]

CV HOOKWith this in mind and in response to the question, “how does a woman become a Captured Vagina?” (CV); the lowest common denominator that motivates every living creature on earth to do anything is Survival of the Species (SOS). Human beings are a part of the mammal and the animal kingdoms. Within that realm, there is clear evidence via the observable behavior that the FEMALE picks the MALE for a personal relationship that usually leads (or might lead) to SEX.

[Sex is one of three (sex, security, honor) very powerful animal/mammal social-survival instincts that influence human social behavior that can lead to perpetuating the human species. (FYI, given the human brain’s extraordinary Cognitive Capacity (CC) sex that occurs between the genders is not limited to mating & procreation. It can also lead to sex for fun, sex for love, sex for romance, etc…)]*

As it relates to a woman becoming a Captured Vagina (CV) it’s her animal instincts that tell her intelligence (cognitive capacity (CC)) that SHE is the one who picks the man for a personal relationship [FYI, given the nature of human CC a personal relationship can be distinctly different than a relationship based on business]. So, despite the fact that a woman “does not need a man to survive,” the animal instinct that resides deep down inside her continues to nudge her such that she instinctively still WANTS a man.

 LADIES: This is where most of your troubles in personal relationships with men begin. It includes the risk of becoming a CV in HIS mind’s eye…

CV NETContinuing, in order for your instinctive WANT for a man to become a tangible relationship in the human realm, your two female social-survival instincts (i.e., SEX-attached to love & romance and SAFETY/SECURITY) must pass through what amounts to be a human female Cognitive Prism (the cognitive prism AKA the PSOI is a coping mechanism for women. It is not my invention. The PSOI is attached to the instincts, which are attached to SOS). In essence, this cognitive prism converts your instinctive WANT for a man/mate into a cognitive, warm & fuzzy, psychological NEED… that by itself is not a bad thing at all. In fact, this conversion process is the main reason why, for example, romance novels that are hundreds of years old such as Jane EyrePride & Prejudice, etc. can still have universal appeal amongst multitudes of 21st Century women (that is to say, a woman’s social-survival instincts for security, love, sex, & romance never changes).

This conversion process is also part of what makes a Fairytale Relationship genuinely feasible in the 21st Century.*

 Meanwhile, the INSTINCTIVE WANT into PSYCHOLOGICAL NEED is subject to a coping mechanism that manifests from the animal instincts and plays out through her human CC via a process called, Pendulum Swing of Insecurity™ (PSOI) in Women. * 

 Thus far, most of what puts a woman at risk for becoming a CV is relatively easy to learn and to manage. However, the next aspect of how a woman can become a CV called, Perversions Of Honor™ (POH) in Men* might initially strike you as the mind blower… But that’s another blog post.

 *[See the books and audios for further information.]

 Best Wishes, Gary James

 Copyright © Gary James 2014





Tuesday, December 11th, 2012

"if you find yourself suffering from one of the psychological issues described here or one that might be similar I promise I can help you recover."

I recently saw a TV documentary about people who think they have issues with sex and who were all participating in group therapy. Out of about a dozen people who participated in the group there were six situations that were most discussed. There was;

A man who “trolled” on line to meet women for sex and wanted to stop that behavior but needed help.

A woman who claimed she was a “non-monogamous” person and wanted to change but needed help.

A woman who loved rough sex and had a strong attraction for the bad guys but wanted to stop because domestic abuse was becoming an ever increasing issue with her.

A woman who is 30 something years old and still a virgin.

A man who was a sex addict and constantly cheats on his girl friend and wanted to stop cheating but needed help.

A man who is afraid of sex.

Here is my reaction; All of the issues described here have some sort of connection to how The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) functions inside of every human being when YOU are ignorant of how TMW actually functions.

As I watched the documentary I could tell right away that none of the people who participated knew anything about my work and that includes the therapist.

He used a combination of therapies including, one on one with each participant along with a measure of group therapy to try and help each of the participants to achieve their goal. In the end we were all left with a sense of “wait & see” if any or all of the participants could claim recovery.

As for me, it’s not that small groups in therapy cannot work it’s more a matter of group therapy when it comes to issues related to The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) simply do not work because of the way it’s administered in our culture. And this is because the real issue never seems to be addressed. It’s always the symptoms not the root reason for the behavior that is addressed. And that’s because no one until me has been able to isolate the fact that there is a root reason for most of the social woes that plague the human condition.

And that’s a shame and why there are soooooo many people who think therapy does not work.

So here is my offer; if you find yourself suffering from one of the psychological issues described here or one that might be similar I promise I can help you recover. You can begin by using self-help therapy by reading my first book. OR, if you need help right away I will throw in the book for free if you register for a phone session with me.

Best to you always,

Gary James

David Petraeus – Paula Broadwell, Holly & Scott, bit in the crouch by The Mammalian Way

Monday, November 12th, 2012

“The greatest source of support, wise counsel, and love that any soldier could have.” This quote from David Petraeus about his wife Holly, and who resigned his position as director of the CIA over an extra marital affair with biographer Paula Broadwell is a perfect example of women (in particularly wives) who get bit in the crouch and the heart by a lack of understanding of HOW a force of nature called The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) functions within each gender. And that lack of understanding goes for David, Paula, and Scott as well.

What’s more David Petraeus probably meant every word of that quote. BUT, in saying those words he was responding through his Cognitive Capacity (CC) that emanates from his brain’s power of reason and not his actual honor instinct. The chief reason men cheat on their wives is because all heterosexual human males are prone to a psychological defense mechanism that manifests out of their own powerful sense of honor called Perversions of Honor™ in Men (POH).

Paula on the other hand started out her affiliation with David as a Professional endeavor where a woman’s need for security in a personal relationship has far less of an impact on her social behavior.

BUT, women respond to what they perceive is a man’s power and if a woman is too close to a man of power for too long of a time her CC can allow her personal relationship psychological defense mechanism called the Pendulum Swing of Insecurity™ in Women (PSOI) to engage and this can easily cause her to feel the satisfying effects of a man being honored by her personal behavior toward him such that he takes the lead in personal matters related to her life.


This can also easily cause her need for security instincts to reach out and connect with his. The end result is almost always an affair that includes lots of sex……

The Petreaus/Broadwell affair is the epitome of a man’s POH reaching out for a woman’s PSOI to the point they will succumb to their instinctive needs to Find The One and engage the process to procreate (one of our most powerful animal survival instincts) even though they are already married.

Whereby, the actual survival of the species social instincts inside of Petraeus and Broadwell that do not “know” what marriage is because it’s cognitive, have likely already denied their respective spouses as THE ONE.




Meanwhile, cognitively speaking Petreaus & broadwell may still claim that Holly and Scott are still THE ONE. However, when the TMW instincts deny your chosen one because of lack of behavior by either them or you that is not in league with how THEY function they WILL always reject your cognitive decisions…. Period.

When that happens coupled with the close proximity of their ongoing interaction the POH and the PSOI defense mechanisms that are creations of the brain’s cognitive capacity will fail to stave off the pressure placed upon a human by their own instincts. 

 If you read my book and listen to the segment of my audio series titled Honor vs Ego(tism) in men you will clearly see what to do and how to avoid or abate something like this from happening to you, because I assure that;

  1. Men are prone to POH and women are prone to PSOI in their personal relationships.
  2. Men are getting increasingly worse in their overall treatment of women and it cannot be fixed at the macro level of life. It can only be fixed on a 1 on 1 basis and then only if you know how TMW force of nature functions and how to apply it in your everyday life

The affair between Petraeus & Broadwell was avoidable. But it has nothing to do with what they think, say, vow, or believe. They lost the battle at the animal/mammal level of life.  And the reason for this is plain & simple ignorance of The Mammalian Way’s existence and/or how it functions.



Sunday, August 26th, 2012

… At first, using my mammal instincts felt like an arm that had been strapped to my side for years…. But soon The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) instincts freed my mind and my heart and my spirit….and it was way more influential and I feel far happier than I expected…and the relationship issues are fading away….

These are para quotes from a conversation I had with a woman (that I will call, RG) who had been shattered by her divorce… Whereby, she “believed the bastard” when he told her that he was not cheating on her only to eventually find out that not only was he cheating…. he was cheating with four women…. 

But that’s not the story that’s interesting….




When RG met me and read my book, even though the information made sense to her it took her some time to trust me because she said, “Gary you’re a sexually straight man and as you say you have a dick prism that can affect your thinking”…. I had to remind her I did not invent TMW and it is NOT my philosophy… Rather, TMW is a gift from nature to all humans… but you do need to know how it functions…. and that is my expertise because I discovered it.

But that’s not the story that’s interesting either….



What’s interesting is how by merely learning about and reacquainting RG with her own “God given instincts” it opened up the pathway for her true emotional self personality to emerge or rather re-emerge….

As of this post’s publication RG is single again and even though she has kids and they are important to her she has been able to use her TMW instincts to develop a potential long term relationship with TWO different men!

And here is what has transpired thus far….

Man One; started out as only a great sex partner and was basically useless beyond that….






Man Two; started out as a guy who was always “there” for her but was less capable of satisfying her physical needs….

Of course this scenario is a classic example of the type of situation that many single women find themselves in… and frankly, my research turned up that it has actually been that way for a majority of women for thousands of years…. And the culprit that causes that scenario is when you do not know how TMW instincts truly function….

Meanwhile, after RG read my book and asked a few initial questions and even spent money and time with me (via text, phone, and email) I gave RG a copy of my audio titled, Honor Vs Egotism in men (which has not been released yet).

Between the information in the book and that particular audio RG learned how to TRUST her own INSTINCTIVE judgment and also learned how to prompt genuinely honorable behavior out of any man that she chooses (so long as he has any interest in her).

And here are the results thus far;

RG told me that she did not know that Man One even had a tool box let alone how to use the tools inside it so she was “surprised and impressed” with his “unsolicited visits” where he went around and “fixed” as many things in her house as he could.

It became obvious to RG that he was behaving as a chivalrous man in that he was taking care of her without being asked or required to in exchange for sex…and it made her feel good about herself… Meanwhile,

Man Two, who she described as a “genuinely kind geek” came to her house to show off his “stylish hair cut” so he would “look more presentable” when they went out…. And then she said, “Gary, I think he must have read your book because he is using some of the experiences you share that happened to you and other men while in the bed room with a woman, with me when we are in bed!” In other words, Man Two has worked on behaving as a better, more romantic lover on top of being emotionally “there” for RG.


Both Man One & Two are doing what pleases RG of their own volition. All she has done is learn from me how to properly prompt a man’s honor instinct (as opposed to his Ego[tism]) and then apply it in the normal course of developing a relationship….

And ladies, I could tell by the tone of RG’s voice that she is genuinely excited about her life again…

And instead of her worrying about such Bull Crap as, “will he call? Or “why can’t I find one guy that measures up on both sides of my Pendulum Swing Of Insecurity™ (PSOI)” or be in a relationship where she needs to clandestinely compromise her standards and suppress mammal instincts in order to have a committed relationship with a man, she is now capable of enjoying BOTH her physical and emotional needs being met by a man at the mammalian level of life…. The place where LOVE grows and relationships flourish…

It's the way nature intended for animal-mammals like humans to behave whenever Girl Meets Guy…..

I suggest you read my first book titled, The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) (currently available on digital download only) and listen to the audio series… The first installment titled, Honor Vs Egotism in men is soon to be released. HOWEVER, if you order the book NOW…. I will send you the audio as a pre release special for no extra cost… It comes as an MP3 download….. If you have a Kindle you can obtain a copy of the book from Amazon by clicking here… or a digital download direct from TMW web site…

Plus, if you own the book or any of my other products you can contact me for an initial consultation as a part of owning any one of my products.

You can also retain me for a consultation and I will send you the book as a part of the consultation. If you are even thinking about it I suggest that you do that now because as soon as I release the first installment of the audio series my rates that have been reduced by 90% will go back to their regular level. Best to you,

Gary James







Tuesday, June 26th, 2012

[Unless you read my book you might not understand this article. Go to to obtain a copy]

It is obvious at a glance that John Edwards likes women who are “emotionally needy” or right on the border of it in their personal relationships with men…. this can cause a woman to quickly fall in love and usually with a man who is very wrong for her life. The lives of Elizabeth Edwards and Rielle Hunter exude such a state…

However, it can actually be an excellent mammalian fit… He gets honored by her and then some…. while she gets a sense of security by being with a man of action… (BTW, he does not need to be a celebrity, a politician, or the likes. He just needs to convey a sense of power….. according to “her” perceptions of it…)



Beyond their emotional neediness…the other thing is, Elizabeth was and Rielle is a Purely Mammalian Woman… Insensitive A-Hole men are well advised to avoid such women IF you do not know what the “F” you’re doing with them because gentlemen, a Purely Mammalian Woman can bring you down fast and make it YOUR idea… even if you didn't cheat…

John Edwards evidently does not know anything about The Mammalian Way™ (TMW). And that’s too bad because he strikes me as an intelligent man who just never bothered to truly pay attention to women enough in order to learn how women instinctively behave when Girl Meets Guy

If he had such knowledge he would not be in the emotional state of Double Dis (no sex and no honor to mention) that he is in right now. 


The situation between Rielle & John is a classic example of what can happen in the early stages of any heterosexual Girl Meets Guy encounter.

She picked him and told him as much… She saw him as he walked around the corner of a building and was immediately attracted to him to the point that she said to him…. “You’re Hot!”

He was honored by her to the point that he not only had sex with her but he took her inside his covenant and risked everything to be with her…. [This is what tells me that John was NOT getting any unmitigated sex or honor (attention) from Elizabeth. If he had, Rielle might not have got him into bed let alone into his life….]

Meanwhile, under the circumstances that existed then, she opened up to him "like no other" and basically gave him her treasures

This honored him even more and so he made even deeper commitments.

Now we have a classic example of the A-B Roll meshing of a man’s honor with a woman’s need for safety… This is what caused the mammalian connection between them. A mammal connection can become strong enough to even supersede love because it IS the place where love attaches itself deep down inside of a human being in order for love to grow….

NOW, if they are/were able to nurture the mammalian connection between them they might be able to stay together indefinitely but as it is now even with Quinn I doubt they will stay together because they both will likely use their Cognitive Capacity to interfere with TMW instincts and this will cause the instincts to reject the other as NOT THE ONE! Eventually their love will fade and the mammal connection will wither for lack of nurturing and they will split up…. As far as Quinn…. Who knows?

Best to you, Gary James author of The Mammalian Way



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