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THE MAMMALIAN WAY™ INFORMATION…GREAT WEDDING OR SHOWER GIFT

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FIFTY SHADES OF GREY & THE MAMMALIAN WAY… a review

The following review was written and sent to me by a woman who has learned to apply The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) in her everyday life and she says it has made her "blissfully happy"…

Once you implement The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) into your daily life, you will be able to recognize it everywhere. TMW states that there are three instincts in people, sex and honor in men and sex and safety in woman. 

Most every woman that reads Fifty Shades of Grey would love to have that kind of relationship. Whether it includes BDSM or just plain old vanilla, woman want a Christian Grey in their bed. A man that will make them feel safe, a man they are bonded to at the molecular level, a man that makes them feel desired… A dominate man with a gentle touch.

Men may think that they cannot compete with a billionaire, sexy, fictional character but they most definitely can. It does not matter if you look like Channing Tatum or Danny DeVito, it does not matter who makes the most money. What matters is if the man has the ability to take the lead in a relationship and can make her feel safe, loved and special.

Just like Ana & Christian, when you met “THE ONE” you just know it. With Christian, it took a little longer because his cognitive capacity (CC) kept trying to overrule his instincts. In the first book, Christian suffers from Perversions of Honor™ (POH) in Men. Ana is able to prompt his honor drive but because of his CC he slips right back into POH. It is not until Ana leaves him that he begins to trust his instincts more than his brain. Just like with all men, they will fall right back into POH, if the woman in their life does not continue to jump-start their honor drives.

Since Ana has never been in a relationship before Christian, she never had to deal with her Pendulum Swing of Insecurity™ (PSOI) in Women. It makes her a bit emotionally unstable at first. When Christian is not suffering from POH, he is able to calm down the swing. Until she meets Christian she is an unfulfilled empowered woman (UEW), she trusted on her instincts not to date men like Jose and Paul because she knows they are not THE ONE.

Christian is the epitome of an alpha male but women give men their identity within a personal relationship… and that is exactly what Ana does for Christian. Christian’s past relationships have almost all been contractual, except for “Mrs. Robinson”.  His relationship with Ana is his first romantic relationship that develops outside the “red room of pain”.

Ana does not change Christian, people cannot change. We are who we are, just as with alcoholics they may be clean and sober but will always be alcoholics. What Ana does is encourages honorable behavior from Christian and gives him the identity of a boyfriend instead of a dom. Christian will always be fifty shades but is able to emerge into a more romantic, less controlling and more open minded person.

In the first two Fifty Shades books, we see how the meshing process works and how mammalian bonds are formed.  If you know how TMW operates you will be able to see how love grows and attaches itself to the mammalian bond and makes it practically unbreakable.

Christian saw the Imperfectly Safe World (ISW) that we live in and always tried to keep Ana as safe as possible. He tried (and failed) to provide her with a Perfectly Safe World (PSW)

Ana and Christian are far from perfect but to most of the people that read the Fifty Shades books, they are the quintessential ideal couple. Fifty shades may help people see what they want out of a relationship but The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) helps us to be able to recognize and keep THE ONE.

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Cornucopia of Psychological Confusion: What is it? How to avoid it in your life.

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The illustration called the Cornucopia of Confusion is a visual rendering that outlines what has occured in the social sciences since the time of Sigmund Freud. The entire process of human socialization had been stymied because the common denominator for all of the emotional and psychological aspects of human life that I discovered call The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) was missing from the understanding of the people who founded behavioral social-psychology.

My work (books and audio series) brings to the table a viable way to diminish the negative affects of the social woes that plague humanity and especially those related to finding and keeping a relationship with THE ONE whenever Girl meets Guy….

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CHRISTOPHER DORNER: They Will Probably Find Him Dead

Talk about a prime example of a Crazy Psycho Boyfriend (CPB) type personality. Chris Dorner really “takes the cake” but it’s also an example of what I mean when I share with you that MEN ARE GETTING WORSE and it’s got very little or nothing to do with guns!

It’s all about Perversions of Honor™ (POH) in Men.

Mass murder is a direct function of men’s POH and you can see that it’s not just young white men any more it’s escalated to older black men as well.

I promise I am not trying to scare you but there is nothing that can be done at the sociological (macro) level of life to change what was put into motion by MEN many millennia ago. The issues related to men’s POH now must run it’s course.

However, on a 1-on-1 (micro) basis there is plenty that can be done to avoid and/or abate having to face such a situation as extreme domestic abuse in your life and be able to do so without giving up on men.

Listen to the first segment in the audio series titled, Honor vs Ego(tism) in Men. It is a further exposé of how a man’s honor instinct sits at the root of why human culture has incurred so many social woes. This particular MP3 is specifically focused on how POH in men can be quite the negative influence on quality of life when you are in a committed relationship with him and what can be done about it on a 1-on-1 basis.

All heterosexual men are prone to POH. It’s a by-product of living in an Imperfectly Safe World (ISW).

Let me help you to better understand this earth wide phenomenon and also provide you with tangible ways to deal with it in your own life. It will help you to feel safer and much more confident with your daily life.

Best to you,

Gary James

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THREE WOMEN FROM 3 CULTURES WITH THE SAME RELATIONSHIP ISSUE WITH MEN….

In the last two months I have counseled a number of women and a few men. Now even though I always protect my client’s anonymity there are three women I have counseled with nearly the exact same relationship issues profile and I am going to share just part of it with you.

Ironically, they are from three different areas of the world and religious faiths; one woman is from a sect of Christianity, one is from a sect of Judaism, and one is from a sect of Islam. Why is this important? It’s because The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) does not discriminate.

It’s a force of nature that is at the root of most of the world’s social issues, including personal relationship issues, because of sheer ignorance of it’s existence and how it actually functions on your insides….

Meanwhile, all three women I mentioned are in committed relationships with men that they thought they knew. Based on that belief each of these women felt safe enough with their man that they each began to become more & more emotionally naked in front of him…. because they saw him as a “Rock to rest their personal insecurities upon” (See PSOI in my book).

[FYI, Emotional nakedness is a stage in a relationship that many women never reach and most men never see because most women never reach a point where they feel emotionally safe enough with him to get emotionally naked in front of him,,,, Emotional nakedness is also a test to “see” how the relationship is doing.]

But as each of the three women continued to reveal to their man their emotionally naked self they all three reported that they abruptly or suddenly stopped the process of sharing their inner most self with “that man” because, “he just could not handle it”. One of the three even told me, “He went from being a rock to a pebble.” 

What’s interesting about this is, these women are not alone. An ever increasing multitude of women are in the same situation and it’s an earth wide issue. Why?

It’s because men’s ineptness to handle the everyday emotional upheaval that occurs in a woman’s life is caused by Perversion’s of Honor™ in Men (POH).

Meanwhile, all three women read my first book titled, The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) and all three listened to the audio segment titled, Honor Vs Ego(tism) in Men (HVE).

To be honest, initially, most women become at least a little upset by what they learn from the book & audio because they do not want to accept that the instincts we humans are given at birth, some of which we have in common with all the other animals on the earth could play such an important role in a human to human relationship as to be a determining factor in whether or not a relationship fails or flourishes.

One woman of the three remarked, "It seemed to be too cold at first." And it’s because a woman’s need for security often induces a powerful cognitive notion that they need to be seen as “special”, and that's true. So as part of my council I always explain to all women that indeed the instincts CAN seem cold and calculated, so to speak, at least at first, because they are about one basic thing, namely, Survival Of The SpeciesI And at that level of life it can be raw.

So it is normal for a woman to initially assume and feel as though she is being categorized as just another female, based on instincts, and I explain that it should bother them some. No big deal, because once a woman adapts her cognitive capacity (CC) to modulate the inner drives from the instincts as opposed to mitigate them it’s what engages nature’s own ability to rectify the “something missing” feeling that most women harbor and attest to along with many other things such as getting HIM to open up. AND, it also serves to help a woman get her CC in balance with her TMW instincts!

To get your CC in balance with TMW instincts is the key to everything emotional or psychological in a woman’s life. And this is the true power of TMW. The book(s) and the audio series are the keys to understanding and gleaning that balance. And when you do get in balance everything about your personal life gets brighter to be sure.

As for the three women and the issue of getting a man to open up, they all three essentially said, “it’s been easier to get him to “see” his responsibility for my [meaning her] emotional needs.” To which I say, YEP, it is actually easy to engage his emotions (feelings) once you understand TMW.

You end up with a much more powerful sense of self that emerges as happiness, more emotional balance, and much more confidence in yourself as well as in your personal relationship(s) with the opposite gender. I have never seen it fail. And that’s because TMW is from nature… it’s not my invention or philosophy.

By the way, all three of the women I write about in this post are empowered women who have personal relationship issues with the opposite gender. The issue of a woman who is empowered in every other area of her life EXCEPT in her "love-life" seems to go “Hand in Glove” for empowered women of the planet earth regardless of what culture or faith you hail from. So,

Read the book. Listen to the audios. Improve the quality of your love-life and more. Contact me directly if you need to.

Best Wishes,

Gary James

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MASS MURDER …. RELATIONSHIP ISSUES…..THE MAMMALIAN WAY….. What do they have in common?

Answer: Perversions of Honor™ (POH) in Men

Clue: modulating his honor drive promotes healthy interaction in personal relationships. Mitigating his honor drive promotes great volatility in his ability to interact with others (especially females)…..

None of the things I have read about mass murderers such as, Adam Lanza, Jacob Roberts, James Holmes, and the likes surprises me in the least and this includes the fact that sociologically speaking, MEN are getting worse! And they are going to get worse and worse before it gets better….. And this is something I have maintained since I finished my first book.  On a sociological (macro) level of life the things that cause a human male to become a mass murderer or engage in rampant domestic abuse, etc. cannot be fixed….

How do I know?

I know because ALL of you (health professionals included) who have found my work are achieving positive results from dealing with the main issue of a man’s egotism vs his honor at the 1-on-1 (micro) level of life.  And they are using the understanding I share in my book and audio series to achieve those results. [Do not ask me why everybody doesn't know this already because that's the process we are all engaging in right now!]

In order for Y-O-U to understand the connection that mass murder has with basic relationship issues you FIRST need to understand how a force of nature I discovered called The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) functions inside each gender, especially whenever Girl meets Guy…. THEN,

You will be much better able to garner a genuine understanding of the seriousness of TMW connection to young men becoming a mass murderer. Honor V Ego(tism) is the great destroyer of men as they encounter an Imperfectly Safe World.

My first book titled The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) is an introduction to how TMW force of nature functions and gives a basic understanding in how to use it as the socialization tool that nature intended it to be.

The initial draft of my first book was more than 600 pages long. I edited that version of the book down to a 200 page introductory book and then I began to produce an audio series that constitutes the other 400 pages. The first segment in the series is an MP3 called Honor Vs Ego(tism) in Men. The book along with each segment of the audio series are a matched pair to give a more complete understanding of how to remain safe & happy in relationships as well as how to avoid many social dangers that women face by helping women help men to avoid the stresses that prompt his ego(tism) instead of his honorable behavior…..  (If you are even slightly confused by what I’m sharing here you should be). Meanwhile,

In order to “get” the value of what I’m sharing you need to FIRST read TMW introductory book and listen to the audio segment Honor V Egotism in Men.

Women who learn about TMW and how to apply it in their everyday lives can have such knowledge serve them as a huge protection from men’s POH.

Plus, it gives women a useful tool to prompt a man’s honorable behavior causing it to re-emerge. This is a vital aspect of a man’s ability to modulate as opposed to mitigate his emotional makeup when it comes to personal relationships. [Clue: modulating his honor drive promotes healthy interaction in personal relationships. Mitigating his honor drive promotes great volatility in his ability to interact with others (especially females)]

And this is because a man’s honor drive is the main aspect of TMW’s meshing process that socializes him into each personal relationship he encounters.

Knowledge of TMW will change your life for the better given the fact the world that YOUR survival of the human species social instincts encounter each day is an Imperfectly Safe World (ISW) and that world is getting worse.

Best to you, Gary James

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JACOB ROBERTS: An extreme example of men’s Perversions of Honor

Jacob Roberts’ story is an extreme example of Perversions of Honor™ (POH) in Men over riding the direct influence of his actual honor instinct on his behavior.

The honor instinct in a man is like a five year old child, it needs to be constantly attended to. When actual honor is not present or the environment his honor instinct is exposed to become perceived to be unsafe the psychological coping mechanism called POH in Men emerges to protect the honor drive from becoming decimated.

However, in a prolonged perceived unsafe environment the POH can and does completely replace the actual honor instinct, and if that false form of honor continues it can & does begin to act very much like a psychological autoimmune deficiency.

Essentially the honor drive caves in on itself and his behavior WILL become extremely volatile with respect to aggressive/violent behavior and most often even though it erupts in an instant the motivation to act violently has built up over time.

In the case of Jacob Roberts it was likely his perceiving his "dreams [being] cancelled" as the stimulus that triggered his eruption.

The issue of men’s POH is very pervasive earth wide and I do not think it can be modified at the macro or sociological level of life.

It can however, be modified and controlled at the micro or 1 on 1 psychological level of life by merely prompting a man’s actual honor instinct to re-emerge.

It can be used as general rehabilitative therapy or it can be used as a preventative measure. As to the use of prompting a man’s honor drive to re-emerge as rehabilitative therapy the question I still debate with my peers is at what point does the violent eruption behavior decimate the honor drive such that it cannot be rehabilitated?

Learn more about my theory by reading my introductory book titled, The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) and listen to the segment of my audio series titled, Honor Vs Egotism in Men. Thus far, an ever growing number of health professionals as well as everyday people who have applied my work into their respective practices or lives are finding an improved quality of their social life as they plow through surviving in a world that is becoming categorically more unsafe by the day.

Best Wishes,

Gary James 

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I HELP PEOPLE WHO HAVE ISSUES WITH SEX!

"if you find yourself suffering from one of the psychological issues described here or one that might be similar I promise I can help you recover."

I recently saw a TV documentary about people who think they have issues with sex and who were all participating in group therapy. Out of about a dozen people who participated in the group there were six situations that were most discussed. There was;

A man who “trolled” on line to meet women for sex and wanted to stop that behavior but needed help.

A woman who claimed she was a “non-monogamous” person and wanted to change but needed help.

A woman who loved rough sex and had a strong attraction for the bad guys but wanted to stop because domestic abuse was becoming an ever increasing issue with her.

A woman who is 30 something years old and still a virgin.

A man who was a sex addict and constantly cheats on his girl friend and wanted to stop cheating but needed help.

A man who is afraid of sex.

Here is my reaction; All of the issues described here have some sort of connection to how The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) functions inside of every human being when YOU are ignorant of how TMW actually functions.

As I watched the documentary I could tell right away that none of the people who participated knew anything about my work and that includes the therapist.

He used a combination of therapies including, one on one with each participant along with a measure of group therapy to try and help each of the participants to achieve their goal. In the end we were all left with a sense of “wait & see” if any or all of the participants could claim recovery.

As for me, it’s not that small groups in therapy cannot work it’s more a matter of group therapy when it comes to issues related to The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) simply do not work because of the way it’s administered in our culture. And this is because the real issue never seems to be addressed. It’s always the symptoms not the root reason for the behavior that is addressed. And that’s because no one until me has been able to isolate the fact that there is a root reason for most of the social woes that plague the human condition.

And that’s a shame and why there are soooooo many people who think therapy does not work.

So here is my offer; if you find yourself suffering from one of the psychological issues described here or one that might be similar I promise I can help you recover. You can begin by using self-help therapy by reading my first book. OR, if you need help right away I will throw in the book for free if you register for a phone session with me.

Best to you always,

Gary James

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David Petraeus – Paula Broadwell, Holly & Scott, bit in the crouch by The Mammalian Way

“The greatest source of support, wise counsel, and love that any soldier could have.” This quote from David Petraeus about his wife Holly, and who resigned his position as director of the CIA over an extra marital affair with biographer Paula Broadwell is a perfect example of women (in particularly wives) who get bit in the crouch and the heart by a lack of understanding of HOW a force of nature called The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) functions within each gender. And that lack of understanding goes for David, Paula, and Scott as well.

What’s more David Petraeus probably meant every word of that quote. BUT, in saying those words he was responding through his Cognitive Capacity (CC) that emanates from his brain’s power of reason and not his actual honor instinct. The chief reason men cheat on their wives is because all heterosexual human males are prone to a psychological defense mechanism that manifests out of their own powerful sense of honor called Perversions of Honor™ in Men (POH).

Paula on the other hand started out her affiliation with David as a Professional endeavor where a woman’s need for security in a personal relationship has far less of an impact on her social behavior.

BUT, women respond to what they perceive is a man’s power and if a woman is too close to a man of power for too long of a time her CC can allow her personal relationship psychological defense mechanism called the Pendulum Swing of Insecurity™ in Women (PSOI) to engage and this can easily cause her to feel the satisfying effects of a man being honored by her personal behavior toward him such that he takes the lead in personal matters related to her life.

This can also easily cause her need for security instincts to reach out and connect with his. The end result is almost always an affair that includes lots of sex……

The Petreaus/Broadwell affair is the epitome of a man’s POH reaching out for a woman’s PSOI to the point they will succumb to their instinctive needs to Find The One and engage the process to procreate (one of our most powerful animal survival instincts) even though they are already married.

Whereby, the actual survival of the species social instincts inside of Petraeus and Broadwell that do not “know” what marriage is because it’s cognitive, have likely already denied their respective spouses as THE ONE.

Meanwhile, cognitively speaking Petreaus & broadwell may still claim that Holly and Scott are still THE ONE. However, when the TMW instincts deny your chosen one because of lack of behavior by either them or you that is not in league with how THEY function they WILL always reject your cognitive decisions…. Period.

When that happens coupled with the close proximity of their ongoing interaction the POH and the PSOI defense mechanisms that are creations of the brain’s cognitive capacity will fail to stave off the pressure placed upon a human by their own instincts. 

 If you read my book and listen to the segment of my audio series titled Honor vs Ego(tism) in men you will clearly see what to do and how to avoid or abate something like this from happening to you, because I assure that;

1. Men are prone to POH and women are prone to PSOI in their personal relationships.
2. Men are getting increasingly worse in their overall treatment of women and it cannot be fixed at the macro level of life. It can only be fixed on a 1 on 1 basis and then only if you know how TMW force of nature functions and how to apply it in your everyday life

The affair between Petraeus & Broadwell was avoidable. But it has nothing to do with what they think, say, vow, or believe. They lost the battle at the animal/mammal level of life.  And the reason for this is plain & simple ignorance of The Mammalian Way’s existence and/or how it functions.

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THE MAMMALIAN WAY IS KEY TO MAKING THE FAIRYTALE A REALITY

The thing about The Mammalian Way™ (TMW) force of nature working for a relationship instead of against it… is embodied in the fact that TMW instincts know exactly what they are doing AND, their ability to influence human behavior is what makes living the fairytale practical… that is so long as your ability to think, feel & reason a/k/a cognitivity is in line with TMW's intent. Why?

Because when it comes to relationships TMW set of instincts is a force of nature that is all about survival of the species.  

To that end they drive human nature to procreate with THE ONE and within the parameters of a committed monogamous relationship. This is their intention….and this is what provides the environment necessary within a relationship to live the fairytale.

Meanwhile, this begs the question, "then WHY OH WHY do we have so many failed relationships"? Answer; we misuse our brain’s cognitive capacity (CC) (a/k/a cognitivity) to try to ignore or otherwise mitigate TMW’s intent.

If you were to ask yet another of the women who found & read my book and listened to the audio series the fact that human CC gets in the way of relationship fulfillment becomes that much more evident….

She describes the difference between the feeling of “security, love, & happiness” she now has in her relationship compared to relationship life BEFORE she was reacquainted with her own TMW instincts as the difference between holding on to a potato (now) vs holding on to a potato chip (before)!

As I listened to her lament about how well her man responded to her prompting honorable behavior from him I could personally sense an ocean of relief that emanated from her tone flowing through the phone….

She (let’s call her SF, as in “set free”) is yet another woman who has been set free from the mire of uncertainty about the intentions and feelings of the man she chose for a committed relationship. He on the other hand was able to make SF wet between the legs but had an extremely difficult time expressing his feelings. His ability to express his emotions has since reemerged in HIM because she has reacquainted herself with her own set of TMW instincts…. (The ability of his/her instincts to reconnect along with the precise process that the instincts use to engage a strong mammal connection in humans is all in the book and audio series).

I will not belabor what I have indicated in earlier blog posts…. TMW is the corner stone of ALL human PERSONAL relationships. With a solid mammal connection in place and nurtured, a personal relationship tends to flourish…. Without it, a personal relationship tends to wither…. And LOVE, between those two people either grows or withers in direct correlation to the nature of their mammalian connection. And this never ever changes….

When a strong mammalian connection is present, whatever relationship issues that seem to exist between she & he tend to fade and love tends to grow….. This is the true legacy of my discovery…. It’s an identifiable force of nature… a gift to all humans that as soon as you learn how to re-connect to it (and not try to mitigate it’s intentions) life in your personal relationship(s) tends to get much, much better. In fact, it’s the key to the fairytale becoming a reality…. If you have relationship issues and/or you want to live the fairytale then, Click here to order the book, audio, or to arrange to speak with me directly…

Best Wishes Always……….Gary James

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