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VAGINA POWER, GARY JAMES, AND THE OUTRAGEOUS ALEXYSS K TYLOR SHOW

Wednesday, December 31st, 2008

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After only one time as a featured guest on her show it took me deeper into understanding the stuff I already know.

That’s what she does to you. Alexyss K Tylor VP (Vagina Power) She draws you out. However, please know the woman is irreverent, soulful, spiritual, outrageous, and that’s just for starters. But her show is a wonderful blend of funny and informative. That is if you can handle the language, which I would say is rated R for language.

Personally, I feel her show is quite refreshing, for one reason amongst many, I was able to say some things the exact way I think them.

So it should come as no surprise that her council style is similar to mine in that Alexyss takes a non clinical approach to the help she brings to her listeners, most of which have some sort of communications issue or other problems in their personal relationships. Yet she has an angels touch in her ability to draw out a person to speak their mind, something she calls, “getting real”. And the results she gets in doing so with listeners and featured guests alike can be therapeutic indeed.

Her ever growing audience is predominately made up of minority women from all over the earth, and they are quick to pass the word about the value of Alexyss’s show. The good Lord willing and if the creeks don’t rise, I am certain Alexyss and I will work together again soon.

I could go on & on about Alexyss’s perspective on personal relationships but I think you need to get a load of her yourself. To do so go to the front page of my radio show’s web site; www.garyjamesradioshow.com THEN, scroll down to the links section on the right side of the page and click on the term “VAGINA POWER” Alexyss K. Tylor. This will take you to her web site and radio show link.

Be Well….Expect Success

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THE MOVIE TWILIGHT REVIEW: A BOX OFFICE HIT….A VALIDATION OF MY THEORIES

Saturday, December 27th, 2008

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….the character Edward Cullen has supreme power to provide for and to dominate Bella Swan so she feels safe enough to melt into his “Lifestyle”…..

Image courtesy of Twilight The Movie Official Web Site

Is it any wonder why the movie “Twilight” has been a box office hit amongst women, especially younger women. The plot and story line fulfillment plays directly into the heart of the pendulum swing nature of women’s own sense of insecurity, although they may or may not be consciously aware of it. But more than that it plays into it with a resolve that satisfies both men’s and women’s psychological defense mechanisms as they work in concert.

The attraction and the success of the movie “Twilight” is because the story’s premise is a perfect example of the psychological theories I uncovered working in harmony (at least between the pair that make up the complete protagonist, stars Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson.)

The two theories (that manifest as psychological defense mechanisms) work in concert in the movie and the underlying reason I see for it’s success is because the character Edward Cullen has supreme power to provide for and to dominate Bella Swan so she feels safe enough to melt into his “Lifestyle” and share in what is arguably a perverse form of existence with out fear. [Defense mechanism one satisfied]

Meanwhile, Edward is dealing with the aspects of an imperfectly safe world where he realizes his actions as a vampire are perverse despite the fact he and his family consume only animal blood as a gesture to show respect for human life. The fact that Edward does not kill people and does not use his power to purposely bully anyone let alone Bella, has the effect of canceling out the negative aspects of the perversions that being a vampire might bring. [Defense mechanism two satisfied.]

Thus, the story becomes a stellar example of the two defense mechanisms working in concert. This connection between Bella and Edward is the blood of the story and what I believe is the true the underlying reason why so many women are attracted to the “Twilight’s” story line. It’s a subliminal attraction that many people might think are teenage impish notions of love & romance and then write them off as merely a way for the 16 year old girl mind set to achieve release. That is, until you understand the theories I uncovered and their axioms.

To learn more about the theories, their application, and how they effect the personal relationships and relative problems in your every day life, read the book, “Love Du Jour: Learn how to Date, Mate, and Communicate with the Opposite Sex in the Era of Empowered Women”.

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EMPOWERED WOMEN: THE MORE THEY ARE EMPOWERED, THE MORE INSECURE THEY BECOME….WHY?

Sunday, December 21st, 2008

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….An empowered woman in that psychological state will bend over, bow down, and do nearly anything her man asks so long as she sees him in the light of power…..

Most women have no idea what they want. However, they do know what they like and respond accordingly when or after they see or experience something that becomes to them what women say they want. You may think this to be merely a sweeping personal opinion. However, as an author and councilor I have used this concept to help many men & women resolve various relationships problems, to avoid other issues in their lives, and make a nice living at it.

My success in helping people in part is because I see clearly the correlation between how empowered a woman is (or claims to be) that coincides with an increased sense of insecurity as extremely predictable. And what this points to is, at least one of the by-products of women’s empowerment. The more empowered she is the more insecure she is….and it’s instinctive. For many women this plain understanding alone has been therapeutic.

I was introduced to the concept of women who become empowered also becoming more insecure as a correlation by a woman who was also my very first serious love affair, her name was Vee.

Vee was an early version of an empowered woman in that by age 21 she had decidedly asserted that she did not need a man to survive. And Vee was right. Yet, by about 30 days into our love affair despite the fact I was 16 years old, Vee had virtually handed me the reigns to take the lead in our relationship.

So long as I remained a worthy leader in her eyes she willingly granted me authority over her. And I saw in her eyes the relief it was for her to follow my lead. (By the way, this action she took also motivated me to become a better man and so for the time we were together our relationship worked.) In time Vee admitted she was more comfortable with me in the lead of the relationship rather than her being the responsible one. And yet Vee was empowered. 

Since Vee I have seen this same correlation between an empowered woman and her sense of insecurity in very many women. And to this day I am astounded by how quickly women respond to a man’s power, especially if it’s in the form of his command presence. 

An empowered woman in that psychological state will bend over, bow down, and do nearly anything her man asks so long as she sees him in the light of power. Yet, women will rarely ever admit to such vulnerability. And as odd as it may seem, the more empowered a woman is the easier it is for a man to achieve a position of authority in her life.

Why is this so? Because, instinctively, women pick men…Men do not pick women. And in doing so it prompts the natural female mammalian instincts to choose a male then submit to his authority. Which means, women’s empowerment, although a good thing, works against the grain of a woman’s natural physiological instincts….It reinforces her constant inner conflict and the something missing that most women express they feel about their lives.

If you want to know more about how this works read my book titled, Love Du Jour: Learn to Date, Mate, and Communicate with the Opposite Sex in the Era of Empowered Women”.

Also, I have an internet radio show www.garyjamesradioshow.com and email gary@garyjamesradioshow.com

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EMPOWERED WOMEN: DO THEY HAVE IT ALL? OR IS THERE SOMETHING MISSING?

Saturday, December 20th, 2008

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When I first told her about the psychological theories I discovered and how they relate to other than personal relationships difficulties, she volunteered information to the effect of, “There is something missing and it’s not merely to deal with an insecure husband.” She said, “It’s something inside, like a gnawing”.

I have many women friends, acquaintances, and lovers who “want it all” and then go out and get it! Yet all of these beautiful empowered women admit, “There’s still something missing”. And each of them I have talked with about the something missing also adds, “And I’m not alone”.

One friend (and former lover) in particular who has plenty of what I call zeal for life, met a man, got married, and raised a beautiful child. She started a business that grew and became successful enough that she now owns a home and a vacation-get away condo, two late model vehicles, private school for her child, and enough free time that she can call her own in order to escape so as to not go crazy when her husband who constantly quizzes her about where she spends her free time as if to say, “honey, I love you but I do not trust you and I’m intimidated by your success”. Got the picture?

When I first told her about the psychological theories I discovered and how they relate to other than personal relationships difficulties, she volunteered information to the effect of, “There is something missing and it’s not merely to deal with an insecure husband.” She said, “It’s something inside, like a gnawing”. YEP!

My friend is the classic example of empowered women syndrome. And it’s nothing more than one of the theories I uncovered that manifests as a deep psychological defense mechanism against a woman’s polarized sense of insecurity.

I say polarized because there are two basic needs for security that women continually contend with and the two are in constant conflict. Each need is instinctive and they tend to operate as a mutually exclusive function. And it is this function that lay at the heart of the “inner gnawing”.

Meanwhile, in following my research I now conclude that if one polarized need is being satisfied to the point where the psychological “gnawing” subsides it is typically at the expense of suppressing or otherwise ignoring the other need, where the “gnawing” persists.


ADVERTISERS

A prime example of how one aspect of this something missing scenario has been exploited can be seen in the advertising industry. Quite often advertisers will aim ads, products, and services at the evident conflict between women’s rational and irrational selves. I am sure this approach works well to move merchandise but it is psychological surface water compared to the deep seated ocean of need a woman has for security that keeps her searching for the “something missing” that often seems to be just out of reach.

Is there a more affirmative answer? Yes. Read “Love Du Jour! Learn How to Date, Mate, and Communicate with the Opposite Sex in the Era of Empowered Women.”

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OBAMA: THE DREAM LEADER….

Wednesday, December 17th, 2008

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ANOTHER ARTICLE IN A SERIES CALLED, ‘THINKING OUT LOUD”.  

Obama: The Dream Leader.

He’s got the heart, charisma, elocution, spirit (or whatever you want to call it) of a leader and a president in the league of Lincoln, FDR, and JFK. Still Obama might be dreaming when it comes to changes he can actually institute.
My take is, he’s come along after the main damage has been done. So he could end up a mere clean up boy behind the parade of leaders from LBJ on through to George W. Bush. What do I mean?
In a nutshell: Lincoln set the stage for the two statuses at law (Two Jurisdictions: One for people with inalienable rights and one for those without) to appear as only one status where democracy could completely overpower the status of the republic. FDR put that concept into full use with the “New Deal“.
However, along came JFK who was going to reverse most of the executive orders that were used as a tool to accomplish passing off two distinct statuses at law as one. He was going to rescind under the emergency powers (executive orders) that had never been rescinded even though they should have when the emergencies the executive orders were written for subsided, going all the way back to include the first ever executive order that Lincoln used to raise the northern army.
Many researchers now agree that part of JFK’s intent was to restore the republic as much as possible and relegate the democratic process back to it’s original purpose within the republic.
This as we now know was a dangerous idea because had JFK succeeded it would have been very restrictive for big business and it would have taken most of the real power to run the country right out of the hands of the politicians. (Did I say in a nutshell or what?)
Meanwhile, here we are at the brink of a major milestone in the lineage of American Presidency’s. Given what I think has happened since the reign of LBJ where the out going president presents the over all actual “state of affairs” facing the incoming president, I am sure Obama received an ear full from George W Bush.
As an exercise In Political Science: Track down any video footage
you can find of Barack Obama just after his first briefing as president elect with George W Bush. Note the deep look of despair that looms over his face just after the briefing and just before his speech.
What was he likely told? America is bankrupt for one thing and that his Station as President (along with we the people), are merely trustees of the bankruptcy.
This also means that any bright ideas Obama might have with respect to changing anything are all subject to the powers that be. Namely the people with the money…the banks……I know, I know. The US government was supposed to have bailed out the banks. Maybe so, but not the ones with the real power. But that’s subject matter for another blog.
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